MOTHER IN LAW

[Sarajandb]

I have the mother in law from hell who's trying to stop my husband from seeing his daughter HIS MOTHER not the child mother we have her 50% 50 % the mother and long story short the ex and mother in law as in my husbands mother as thick as thieves.
Basically shes threatening to take his child from the school on his days. Now as far as i'm aware both parents rule over anyone else although the ex the child's mother doesn't support him when he turns up for his daughter on his days and his mother is present he rules that now.. the school have said shes on the approved list and they cant take her off but i find this shocking.
Shes unstable, on depressive medication and drinks a lot, is volatile and unpredictable and he doesn't want his mother collecting her on his days simple as ..
How can we stop this as he doesn't want a scene at thew school gates both turning up and upsetting the child neither.
What can he do and where does he stand he is her father ans she is a grandparent not a parent.
(yes punctuation rubbish before the trolls come out out i'm in a rush ! )

Let me get this right, both Mum and Dad don’t want MIL to collect the child from school. Surely if both mum and dad together tell School and sign a letter to say she nolonger is on the approved list then she won’t be. Dad must also tell the MIL that she is not allow to collect the child though.

No sorry. Ok I’m step mum married to dad. Dads mother (grandmother my MIL) is very friendly with the child’s mother as in the ex so the mother doesn’t agree but it’s the fathers mother (confusion overload )

This is very confusing.

It's still confusing but I think you're saying the MIL is on the approved list and the child's mother is ok with this (maybe she put her on the list?) MIL is threatening to turn up to school and take the child on your DH's days, and the child's mother won't do anything to stop that happening?

Think this needs moving to the relationship board. I've no advice. Sorry

Yeah basically that about sums it up yes.

Are your partners days set out in a court order? Or does he have PR?
I would suggest a letter to school stating which days your partner collects the children and asking school to ensure they are not going with anyone else on those days. A court order is would support this. Also, school may be agreeable to the children being collected from office on his days so there is no nasty confrontation