Parenting help

[Mummzyof3]

I am borrowing a friends account so please dont have a go at the person for this

I know im going to get backlash on this

I want to get rid of all parental rights for my child,the mother of the child told me she was going to have an abortion and went there but told me a few days after that she hadnt,i have 2 kida with her but i want nothing to do with her or the kids.im not on the birth cert.
Long story short her family and her threatened my ex partner who i have a child with aswell, she threatend to lie to social services to jepodise me seeing my other child unless i saw her kids.she has rang my work for no reason other then me being 10 mins late on paying the csa , she pesters me and if i dont sleep with her when i have seen her she guilt trips me and says she is upset as she loves me and only wants a family.
I have had enough and honestly habing the kids and her out of my life is the only way i am going to be able to have a life
What can i do?

There are no such thing as parental rights there are parental responsibilities. You can’t give them up. You have created these children and are at a minimum financially responsible for them.

You need to man up and don’t have sex with someone if you don’t want to. If she causes issues with being abusive to other people then you contact the police.

Pay child maintenance by standing order and this will prevent it being late.

Obviously you can choose to no-longer see your children but that would make you a shit.

Look ya twat, grow some nuts, and grow up.

My nephew "signed away" his responsibilityies, and he's regretted it ever since.... I didn't find out until AFTER the event.... He's a changed man now, and wouldn't dream of ever doing that again, esp now he is a step dad, and a proper dad (I can tell you tho, there's no difference in the way he raises both with his wife).

If you just want access but want nothing to do with her...

1, pay CSA by DD
2, after 6 months of regular unmissed payments, go to family court for access.
3, stop going round there, and stop fighting.like a girl, like she is. Just stop it FFS, you're an adult now.

I grew up with a dad who kept pretending to be a dad, but loved n doted on his new family, while fucking me around, while I was in care. It's called... EMOTIONAL ABUSE ... A B U S E , get it.

Those kids know you're their dad, so be a fucking dad. Birthday cards, Christmas, events they ask you to attend.

Now.put down your crayons, and start acting like a dad, and stop fucking around with the kids emotions.

You should've thought about all of this before you slept with her (at least 3 times if you have 3 kids).

Grow up and take responsibility. You don't need to have any contact with her once you've sorted CM and any access but you can't just abandon your children because your ex is a bit of a nutter.