Dd has just told me and ds she's gay

[AndwhenyougetthereFoffsomemore]

Other than giving her a big hug, telling her I love her, and asking if she needs any support with school (which I did) what else should I be doing?!

DH will be back in a bit and wondering whether to brief him or let her tell him!

I am nervous that dd's (female) best mate (who pretty much lives at our house some days) comes from a VERY faith based family, and I worry how they will react - I suspect that they won't be told...

I'm sorry if this hits you round the face, and we live next door to a church and DD's bestie's family was also religious. Are you sure your DD and her bestie aren't already in a relationship more than just friends? Absolutely sure?

My dc came out last year. It was a total surprise - had no idea. Was in the car when found out.

Dh was as surprised as me, but was more matter of fact about it then I expected.

The biggest surprise was that, apparently, ds had told friends already. Somehow, that surprised me. Teens these days are a lot more accepting and open then the older generation. It’s not such a big thing for them, and it’s not unusual for them to swop from bi to straight to gay over time.

One thing I have noticed is that i’m more sensitive to lgt news. Before it didn’t affect me, and wasn’t part of my life,, but now i’m Aware of any homophobic situation. I guess I just want to protect my dc from harm.

The biggest surprise was that, apparently, ds had told friends already. Somehow, that surprised me. Teens these days are a lot more accepting and open then the older generation. It’s not such a big thing for them, and it’s not unusual for them to swop from bi to straight to gay over time.

Agree, as my last post, I'd be surprised if andwhenyou's DD hasn't told friends, and has a relationship. Also agree about the switching, as happened with my DD.

We've also found with the homophobia it's the older generation and it angers us as parents more than it does DD who seemingly is impervious to it as she went through her teens.

I really wish it wasn't necessary to make an announcement at all.

Heterosexual people aren't made to feel it's necessary, so why should others with a different sexual preference.

Steve - the relationship between them was one of the reasons I'd had an inkling dd might be gay, so I wouldn't be even slightly surprised tbh. And dd's mate is utterly lovely and an amazing positive influence on dd, so it would be a good choice! But politically, that would be a hornets nest so I'm not poking it or asking the question for now!

Dd has already talked to friends too, Lmfan - but that didn't surprise me. I'd talk to my mates before my mum about my sexuality!

You sound like great parents, just take her lead - no buying rainbow t shirts yet. My brother did it at his pace and chose not to tell extended family that had no real reason to know (they were really religious of the evangelical variety), but at work he has always been out and his expartner was always invited to events just like opposite sex ones. He's single at the moment though finds the modern gay scene not his thing

I just think the whole thing is beautiful, an utter high of parenting. You sound a great mum!

That's beautiful to hear, you did just fine!!!