Grandparents not wiping baby's bum properly

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I have a 10 month old dd who is looked after by both sets of grandparents a couple of mornings a week. I find that if dd has a poo in their care, they don't wipe her properly. There is still poo in the creases.
Is this normal? Am I too thorough, or are they not wiping well enough?

Not wiping well enough imo. If she’s still dirty she’ll get sore.

Of course it’s normal or you being too thorough. You need all the poo off her skin, including the folds, each time. This is very basic care.

*not normal

I've found this with grandparents, child minder and husband. I've accepted that they're worried about being gentle so I just change her again when we get home.

Could you say to them that she has a rash so you're taking extra precaution to ensure she is clean, could they do the same?

Personally, I would say they're not wiping properly (I like to see a 100% clean bottom when I finish wiping).

Do they have slight issues?

And/or

Are they aware that they need to really wipe 'into' the creases? (I know it seems an odd question, but my parents seemed to forget!)

Oops. I meant "do they have sight issues?"!

Maybe send cotton wool and suggest she needs a good 'sluice down'? Are they worried about being too 'in there' maybe?

Exactly what I thought. As a first time mum (and with both sets of grandparents doing the same) I doubted myself. But it's a relief to hear others think the same way I do.
Looks like I'm going to have to have the chat with them...great.

Thing is, with girls, as you know, you need to wipe the 'front bum' as well.... Are they doing this?

Mummy on mn you have to say
vulva!

jamhand it’s really not on for anyone to not properly clean poo off a child’s genitals but especially a childminder, I would certainly speak to my child’s nursery if I was finding that. It’s not much good changing your daughter when you get home if she had a dirty nappy shortly after you dropped her off. It’s not a kindness being “gentle” as you put it - it’s harmful for her delicate skin and pretty shoddy of grandparents let alone a childcare worker or her own dad.

Thanks everyone x

I was having this problem with my mum (I am a SAHM so she only actually looked after him without me occasionally) but it’s when she didn’t have her glasses on when changing my sons nappy.