’m really struggling at the moment with how hard I find weekends when everyone (DCs age 1 & 4, and DH & I) is together. I feel like I should enjoy family time all together. But the truth is I find the week much more manageable when DS is at Preschool 4 days a week and DH at work. At weekends it feels like everyone is swirling around with their different demands and issues. My 4 year old son is not easy, he needs loads of activity or can be very difficult. DH is constantly tense and we disagree a lot at weekends. I experience him as another source of stress. He is also massively messy, and I get tired by the huge mess the house gets into at weekends. I’ve tried having more structure and making sure we have planned outings, which is better than not having this, but the bits at home are still difficult. We’ve had a hard time because our youngest has had v serious health issues, getting better but there are still sudden hospital admissions occasionally, which are unpredictable. I wish I could enjoy family time but I actually often find myself hating it at the weekend then feeling a lot happier during the week again. I also actually find it easier, for the most part, looking after the kids on my own than with my DH. Don’t know what to do... Sometimes I wonder about separation and divorce but there are good aspects to the relationship and DH is great in many ways.