When did you put baby in own room?

[doggymom23]

I know guidelines say six months with mum and dad but when I mentioned this to my mum she was shocked! She said I was in my cot in my own room from six weeks! What did you do?

It's important that parents do not become complacent. SIDS rates have fallen due to increased awareness of safer sleep advice, the rate could go up again. Only 20 children died in 2017 as car occupants in road accidents, we still make sure they are correctly restrained!

About 10 weeks. He was born end of October and moved into his own room early Jan when he outgrew the crib.

My friend is a paediatric dr and did the same, so that good enough for me.

I think six months is OTT, I personally think it helps set up good sleep routines for them too.

And I have NEVER let my son come into our bed to sleep. 5 years on he's always been pretty good at sleep, you don't want to be 2-3 years down the line and can't get them out of your bed!

About 9 months would have been 6 months but he woke up so much it wasn't worth it

My son was 5months. He was always very big and healthy and rolled very early so I wasnt worried.
My daughter was 7 months. She was very small when born so I waited till later just for peace of mind.
They are both good sleepers now. My personal view is that it's best to get babies used to sleeping in their own rooms asap (within guidelines for safe sleeping) I mean if you do want them to sleep in their own room, I know some parents love bed sharing etc but it's not for me because I'm a very light sleeper. I think it's a lot harder to get them to adjust to their own rooms as they get older so I do think 6 months is around the best age for it.

I think six months is OTT, I personally think it helps set up good sleep routines for them too

DS’s sleep routine is exactly the same in our room as it would be in his own room. The only difference is that at the moment he settles down to sleep downstairs at 7pm and I carry him up to bed when I go. He doesn’t wake up, and sleeps 7-7 with one feed at 4am ish.

@ritzbiscuits wow so you can have comfort and security of sleeping next to someone, but a child shouldn’t? Despite bad dreams, illness, being scared or lonely? Yikes, I wouldn’t be bragging about that.

Sorry @MustardScreams if I've offended, but I'm not the only mother who has stopped children coming into their bed for co-sleeping.

Aside from me being a selfish git in not wanting to set up co-sleeping routines, it also can be very dangerous from a suffocation POV.

OP, as you'll see it's an extremely personal decision on what you plan to do.

My children were in their own rooms from day one, and actually also on a different floor. Used a monitor. Never slept with us except if feeling very poorly. Also always put them to bed awake and while my eldest always slept well, my daughter took longer (reflux issues) but at three months got with the routine. Now 14 and 15 and all well!

Pipandmum wasn’t that a pain for night feeds? I think maybe I’m just lazy, there’s no way I’d traipse to a different floor a few times a night for feeds!

We co-slept from birth, and both my kids were around 2 when they decided they wanted to sleep in their own beds in their rooms.
DC1 is 4 and is consistently in her own room. DC2 is 2.5 and probably spends 75% of the time in his own room.
Personally it would feel really weird to me to put a baby in their own room, but that’s just because I’ve never done it I guess!!

I moved my dd when the night feeds were down to 1, and she only took 10mins to feed so i was never awake long.

Like a pp i have never co-slept, and don't ever intend to.

Parenting is so personal, everyone does it differently and for different reasons

SIDS guidelines have saved thousands of babies.

Actually, it is not clear how many of babies' lives (if any) were saved by this particular part of SIDS guidelines - room sharing recommendation.

It is a proven fact that "back to sleep" campaign has significantly reduced SIDS numbers across the world. However, advice on room sharing is not adopted universally. Some countries like UK and US have included it in the official guidelines. Others (e.g. Netherlands or France) have chosen to omit it. UK SIDS stats nowadays are generally comparable to France and, interestingly, Netherlands has got the lowest level of SIDS across the developed world. 80% of Dutch babies sleep in their own room from day one. So while historic studies do show that room sharing has got moderate SIDS protective impact, the effectiveness of recommendation on room sharing can be questioned.

Around 12 months. I didn’t want them to be in a different room, just made it harder to get up and go and fetch them in to my bed for a feed then carry them back to their room etc.

@wintertravel1980 peer reviewed source for that info please?

@MustardScreams - here is the most comprehensive study on SIDS available so far. It analyses the level of SIDS risks depending on potential risk factors:

bmjopen.bmj.com/content/3/5/e002299

I am sure you can find all the relevant Odds Ratios in the research paper but in case you are short on time, you can have a look at the following summary:

expectingscience.com/2015/09/18/bedsharing-and-the-sids-controversy-why-i-bedshared-with-my-second-child/

Room sharing has got an adjusted OR of 2.4. It appears slightly safer than "safe co-sleeping" (OR of 2.7).

Sorry, a correction to the above. Having the baby sleeping in a separate room in the absence of other risk factors appears slightly safer than "safe co-sleeping".

DS still with us just shy of 9 months. He sleeps 6.30/7 until somewhere between 5 and 6. It’s nice to have a feed and snuggle in bed in the morning without having to traipse upstairs (his room is an attic conversion).

He outgrew his moses basket at about 3 months so he moved into his own room but we have a single bed in the nursery so one of us slept in there with him until he was 6 months

DS will probably have to go into his room in the next few weeks. He's 4mo now and getting too big for his Moses basket. I'm just waiting to be sure we're through this sleep regression first.

DD was 14 months. Tried at 12 months but her sleep got even worse and I couldn't handle getting out of bed every 30 minutes. We were about to do some sleep training and it made sense to do both unpleasant things at once. Worked well!

DS was about 8 months. We went to stay at DM's for a week and when we came back I decided to move him because he would've forgotten that he usually slept in our room. Also worked fairly well.

3 months

12 months and that’s the soonest I would do it.

About 4 months. We would wake each other up all night, moved into own room and slept through! We still cosleep at times though (if he's poorly for example)

3 months. Couldn't fit cot bed in our room. I couldn't sleep at all while she was in our room in moses basket, I worried more then about something happening to her. When she went into her own room at 3 months we used one of those sensor mats and I felt so much more relaxed. Dummies also help them to remember to breathe too.

4 months because I went back to work then. It was less disruptive to us both, I wouldn't be woken during the night time feed and he wouldn't be woken by my alarm clock and hairdryer!