Anxiety or mum guilt?

[xxxJess123xxx]

Hi all I have 2 little ones, 3 year old girl and 4 month old boy.
I had a lot of anxiety at the start with my boy, a medical problem and NICU stay was the reason I believe.
Basically now he is better, I have terrible anxiety/guilty about both the kids.
My 3 year old I feel guilty that I dont play with her enough as the baby is quite full on, and the baby I feel guilty I put down too much to do his own thing while I do house work etc.
I try to play one on one with my 3 year old when baby naps but I feel guilty I'm not doing enough with the baby. I talk to him etc, sing, play with his toys but I do have to.put him down alot to deal with the house and 3 year old.
Is this sort of anxiety/guilt normal? I worry he will get a flat head and not develop enough being put down and I feel bad on my 3 year old she has to share her mum all the time and has to wait to play.
Am I normal?!!! Is that even a thing lol I'm rambling now.
Thanks in advance

I can assure you that you are quite normal.
Relax girl, everyone feels as you do
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Yep I also have this with my 3 year old and 7 week old. Your 4 month old won’t know any different as this is all they have known whereas it’s all change for your 3 year old who has only even known it as the 3 of you. Soon enough though it will become the norm for them too and they will adjust to the new addition. Sounds like you are doing a fab job!

Thank u x