The word earrape

[BackAche21]

My y6 DD has her first phone. We've agreed I have her password and can look in on messages. The group chat with her friends (boys and girls) is mind numbingly inane. But 2 boys are using it to show off how many swear words they know, plus one has complained that some music is brother is playing is a total earrape. I think it's a really ugly word but also with the swearing it seems like this is language being used to intimidate. Obvs, those words are out there so that's what they will hear and worse in secondary school, but part of what girls and boys need to learn is talking with respect right? DD and her friends see it for what it is ie showing off and just ignore it. But letting these things pass is why they seem acceptable. If it was my son I would want to know that's the language he's using and want to talk to him about it. Should I say something to his parents?

If it was me, yes, but we live in a small community and I know most of the parents. I would screen shot it and forward to the parents as a fyi, with no judgement.

They said that when I was in secondary (2006-11) but it meant sticking your finger in someone's ear when they weren't expecting it.

I think it's a meme, so the kid hasn't come up with it himself.

I would screenshot it to his parents though yes.

it seems like this is language being used to intimidate

^Disagree with this completely. It's not a nice term, but it's a common word used to describe annoying/painful sounds on the internet. I don't think it's being said on the chat with the intention to disrespect your daughter or the others on it.

The following definition is from Urban Dictionary:

In verbal electronic communication (ventrillo, skype, teamspeak, etc), when a person speaks/plays a sound, usually to annoy/antagonise the other listener(s), at such a high volume and/or pitch that can damage the listener(s) hearing/speakers.

I think talking to parents is completely overreacting. If you don't like the term, just have a chat with your daughter about why she shouldn't use it.

It's not as sinister as you make it out to be...

Ear Rape Definition

If I were his parents I'd think you were odd for looking at/screenshotting your daughter's messages, let alone complaining about this term. Wouldn't even bother mentioning it to my son.

Wait until the boys start posting pics of their willy, that started about y6 around here.
Honestly, a bit of unsuitable language and awful music is nothing to compare to the willy pics.

Good lord it's internet speak for a loud and high pitched noise or song, used by literally millions every day, get a grip ladies.