Does anyone else have struggles with their partners since having a baby???
My husband is very thoughtless and I've always known this but it's got so much worse recently. He doesn't do things on purpose he just doesn't think about things and then I end up feeling forgotten or like he doesn't care. Whenever I bring it up he does eventually apologise (after lots of denial etc) but I'm sick of feeling upset by his actions, telling him, him being 'unaware', having a bicker or argument and then me crying, silent treatment from both of us for a bit, him eventually apologising, me accepting it and then the same cycle a few days later. I'm so fed up of him constantly doing this it's tiring. This morning I needed help getting out the house with our twins and it was important I was as on time as possible. I asked for help, he seemed reluctant to help. He was working from home but what would have taken us 5 mins jointly would have taken me bloody ages so I didn't think it would be that much of an issue. I got upset because it took me absolutely ages, he knows I struggle getting out and that it makes me down. He apologised for not being able to come anywhere with me today. Ummmm, that's not what I'm upset about. I've asked for help and he's been reluctant to, I should have an apology for that! It's turned into an argument, he said he didn't hear me but he did because he half arsed it, so I know he did. I don't believe him. He tends to deny things and then apologise 20 mins later. We've had silent treatment again. I'm about to walk out the door then he apologises as I'm about to walk out for being thoughtless and insensitive. FFS!!! If he would have just apologised in the first place instead of denial again we wouldnt have had an argument. So again, both parties are upset because he can't seem to apologise. What a waste of time! This happens all the time. Normally I forgive him because I don't like arguing. But I was reluctant to today because this happens too often. Usually when we bicker or argue I'm very calm, my tone is quiet and calm, I never shout etc I like to discuss things instead of shouting. He gets angry quickly and shouts/raises his voice. But today, I lost my shit. He absolutely hated it that I shouted but I said to him it's been a long time coming because I always keep my cool, it's usually the other way around. I told him well now you know how it feels (childish I know) and he said oh what was the point me being here I may aswell go to work bla bla bla. I walked out because I can't be bothered today. This happens all the time (minis me walking out etc).
Am I being over sensitive?! I know I can be when tired. Is this a man thing? Are they all thoughtless???? Sometimes I feel like the luckiest person in the world filled with love to have him and most days recently I feel angry and bitter towards him and just damn well irritated, I tend to hold onto all of these little things he does. I know it isn't healthy!! It sounds like a small thing but this happens aaallll the time and I'm bored of it. It's like he's not capable of recognising "oh we had a discussion about this last time, I won't do it again. It doesn't cross his mind