DS very upset about moving house

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any advice pleaseeeeeeeeee.........
we are meant to be moving house within 2 weeks or so just waiting for the exchange of contracts... we are all so stressed. my son in Year 3 just can't stop crying... hes up now just wont go to sleep and we are trying our best to comfort him but nothing is helping. He just doesn't want to move schools... hes not bothered about moving house its just that he will be leaving allll his friends and school. Its tearing our hearts out him crying all the time, every day. I have tried comforting him and explaining all the good things and points about where we are moving but he doesn't care... we have said we'll be back all the time and his visit his friends etc because its only half hour away....helllppp please. what can i do.our hearts are just getting torn out here but know that we can't back down and give in.

Have not been through it myself, so can't offer any suggestions. Hopefully someone else will. But stay strong. Of course he's upset about leaving the house/school he knows. He will probably cry every day for a while when you take him to his new school (a pal of my DS's did this for weeks). BUT it won't last for ever and you just have to keep reminding yourselves of why you are making this move in the first place. Comfort your DS, of course, but try not to let his upset rip you apart. It will pass, with time. Hopefully there will be some good tips to help you meantime.

If it's any consolation, I moved twice at that age and I know others who have and it is really quite an adaptable age to move. He should settle in fairly quickly.

IN the short term, can you offer anything nice for the summer? Trips, toy for the new gaRDEN? wILL THERE BE children round about your new house?

It must be really hard for you.

We moved 40 miles away from our home in October last year and while our ds was only 3 he was quite upset and disorientated.

It only lasted a few weeks but in that time we spent a lot of time walking around the neighbourhood and exploring, when we first moved into the house we made sure his room was the first room to be finished and we just talked a lot about what fun he would have in his new school and how many new friends he would make.

I'm wondering how far away you are moving from your home now, if it's not too far you can always arrange a day for his old friends to come over and stay.

We've been here 9 months now and our son loves his new school and has lots new friends, I hope your son settles in his new school xx

thanks everyone. We are moving about 20 miles away so not too far really, am arranging to visit a few of his friends through the summer because we don't know anyone where we are going so until the school starts in Septemeber it will be a bit of a struggle. We have a daughter too who will be starting reception... shes doesn't seem bothered at all but then again shes not leaving any friends from school... I knew that it would be hard but didn't realise would be this hard... Crazy but we had moments on whether to back out because he is so upset but that means we would never do anything... got to be strong but sooo hard. we are going to make sure the kids rooms are done first also for them to pick a fruit tree each which is something they really want as well a a veggie patch, so trying to focus on that. trying to tell him he will make some good firneds etc but he doesn't want to and keeps begging not to move...or he said its ok to move house but can we travel in to stay at the school

Hi

we moved house during the easter hols, my kids are 7,11 and 2 1/2.
My ds year 2 although like yours was really upset to leave his friends has just settled in fantastically.
we still keep in contact with his old friends, invites to parties etc and playing over at wekends etc, but he really has made new friends straight away.
we like you were having a terrible time worrying, but its all worked out fine..... i'm sure it will for you too.
Our 11 year old prob was hardest, she had to join the last term of year 6 before moving to secondary this sept, and she's now going to a school where only a few are going to.I thinks it was harder for her to try to break into well established groups.
M ds is soo into football and we arranged for him to join a club and that way he also seemed to gain confidence and get to know th others quicker.
I really am sure it will be ok, but i know how you feel, we had moments when we wondered if we'd done the right thing and like you only moved about 10 mile.