Splitting duties

[Shaddow2016]

I am curious as to what other partners are like when they're working. Mine doesn't do any feeds or get up with her in the night or in the morning because he has to work. I think I'm essentially still doing a job and being tired at the same time and I wondered if I am in the wrong to Expect some help during the week?

This is a tricky one. I exclusively breastfeed so partner couldn't do it but, even then I suggested he slept in another room so he wouldn't keep getting woken up. He drives a lot for work, operates machinery etc and I so him being tired could be dangerous.

However, he then always made sure I have lay ins or time to nap and catch up on sleep when he was about.

Now she's older we take it in turns if she wakes up in the night and get up alternate mornings as she's an early riser so we've spilt it more.

I did all night feeds and wakings during the week as my partner has to start at 5am. I never expected anything during the night in the week.

We've always split the weekends 50/50.

I did 90%+ but he read to them from about 9 months old nightly and would walk up and down trying to get them to sleep once they were weaned (around 18 months). As I stayed home I was just please he always cleaned the bath!

Since about 2 months of age we take night about for the night feeds (usually only once a night, and this was only possible as I couldn't breastfeed). Partner does bedtime most nights when he gets in from work. At weekends sometimes I'll get a day off or a few hours, sometimes I'll do most of it, and sometimes will just both do it together.
It takes 2 to have a baby, and I don't think it is unreasonable to expect to share the parenting responsibility when they are not at work, particularly when night feeds become less frequent. Looking after a baby full time is very hard work, which doesn't really ever stop.