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Should I use a dummy

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lorza03 · 29/05/2019 20:04

Ok so my son is 5 weeks old every night if I put him down he screams until I pick him up and feed him (EBF) my other children are still also young , 22months and 3.5 years. My 22 month old son is hitting the terriable 2s and also screams from time to time .. this then Sets of my 3.5 yo for no reason. I'm ok and can deal with it when my husbands home but most nights with the nature of his job he missses the tea and bedtime or somtimes ends up coming home for dinner then going back out to finish the work. My husband doesn't want to use a dummy ...but then he is never solely looking after 3 children as I'm breastfeeding. I had a dummy for my daughter and swore I'd never do it again but at the moment I feel like anythings worth a try . What do all think have you been in this situation?

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Lazypuppy · 29/05/2019 20:13

My dd had a dummy from 2 weeks, it comforts her so it is a good thing in my eyes.

We restrict it to naps and bedtime, so it won't be such a challenge when we get rid of it eventually.

Why don't you want to use one?

tararabumdeay · 29/05/2019 20:18

They wouldn't have been invented if there wasn't a point.

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lorza03 · 29/05/2019 20:53

I don't want my other children to go back to having them as they have been without got 5 months now, and mainly my husband who has the issues rather than me, I'm just slightly concerned it may interfere with the breastfeeding

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Haz1516 · 29/05/2019 21:03

It's very unlikely to interfere with breastfeeding. Like you said, your husband isn't in charge of all three of them. Do what you need to do to keep your sanity. You can always give dummy now and take away before 6 months, tell the other children that it's just for baby.

Lazypuppy · 29/05/2019 21:18

At 5 weeks old and if breastfeeding is established it won't intefere.

Just tell older kids it's just for baby

helterskelter3 · 29/05/2019 21:21

I can’t imagine not using a dummy! I’ve EBF all mine too with no confusion. Give yourself a break!

CostanzaG · 29/05/2019 21:23

Use a dummy! Anything that saves your sanity is worth it.
Your DH is being quite mean about this and as much as advocate equal parenting I think you get the last word on the subject.

AnneElliott · 29/05/2019 21:27

I'd use the dummy. If baby is only 5 weeks old then I can't see the problem (I know people have issues when toddlers have them).

Tell your DH he can do a full weekend shift alone and then tell you a dummy isn't needed!

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