Constant crying! Need help!

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My DD2 is 9 weeks old and for the past 7 weeks she constantly cries on and off at everything, all the time throughout the day.

She did have colic and would cry for a solid 3hrs every evening, this stopped once I changed her onto
Hipp Organic and she's now more settled in the evening and will fall asleep around 8pm.

But yet the day time crying continues.

I feel like I'm losing my mind, and I don't know what else to do. My HV comes every two weeks and she gives me things to try, like talking to baby, having positive facial expressions, going for walks, letting baby watch colourful TV, but NOTHING works!

She is never happy with anything I do or try and I'm hating every second of my mat leave. I just want to go back to work!

I don't know what I want from this tread, probably just to vent! But if anyone has been in this position, how did you get through it? When did It stop??? Please give me some hope!!!

Anyone? 😢

OP I hope someone with some advice comes along soon. Could she be allergic to the formula? Maybe she needs a prescription formula? Have you been to a doctor? Must be so tough

Have you looked into reflux? That was the issue with one of mine. Can be 'silent' so you won't see them getting sick. ....I'd definitely ask GP. The constant crying lessened with medication for reflux but really until she could sit up unaided she was still never really happy, poor thing. She's absolutely fine now & I've (nearly...)forgotten the torture that was watching her cry & feeling unable to help.

Also, didn't help us but I know a lot of people who swear by cranial osteopathy, particularly for babies born with intervention e.g. EMCS, forceps.

I've been to the doctors and they recommended using Colief, but that made the crying worse. I don't think she's allergic, as she has no other symptoms, but it could very well be silent reflux. 🤔

I think another trip to the doctors is in order, but this constant crying is sending me under!

Absolutely query silent reflux - our paed said it’s way more common than people think and often dismissed as colic.

Really feel for you on this, my DD was exactly the same. Cried virtually non-stop from 3-15 weeks. Is there “one thing” that can stop her crying? In my case it was tiger in the tree hold whilst walking or swinging her in a blanket. As a final resort I just did that all the time until she fell asleep. I ended up with PND from the mind-numbing amount of hours/weeks/months walking in circles around the same room. When you’re in the thick of it, it feels like it will never end but the clichéd answer is that it does pass. Please hang in there and focus on surviving from one day to the next.

If you haven’t tried this yet, get a large blanket or towel and put baby in the middle. Then get two people to hold the ends and swing it gently like a hammock. For some reason this tends to calm crying babies down...and might even send them them sleep.

My DD improved dramatically from the point she could hold her head upright. The probably helped with reflux and she loved looking at things instead of lying flat.

My baby was a crier and it was terrible. I used to just walk around for hours with him up on my shoulders waiting for him to fall asleep, or rock him in his chair until he fell asleep. Do you have support? Just someone to help walk around with him - don't be afraid to ask for help. It's so hard to get through but you will.

Try the doctor for infant gaviscon or ranitidine and see if it makes a difference. Some babies just struggle being little babies though. My little one is almost 1 now and it feels like so long ago, but it was so awful at the time - he is now such a happy cheeky little thing though. The crying won't last for ever.

Also try a dummy if your baby will take one (if you haven't already)

Another vote for looking into silent reflux. My DC was exactly like this- cried or screamed all day and night until 6 months (nobody really believed it was as bad as it was at the time) and 100% it was such a huge part of causing me PND. I was utterly miserable and exhausted and pretty much in total despair every day from the relentlessness of the crying.
I really, really sympathise and send a huge virtual hug. It is horrendous when you're going through it.

Thank you all so much for your caring, helpful and supportive messages. I have a very supportive family, but since having DD2, I have developed PND. Looking after two babies under 17 months and having DD2 scream at me all day, has probably been the worst time of my life.

I'm very fortunate that DD1 is an absolute breeze and is happy to entertain herself whilst I deal with DD2. (She does have a dummy and is starting to take it more often now).

My HV comes every fortnight and although she's lovely, things don't seem to be getting any easier. As awful as it sounds, I just want to wish this time away.

My DD was exactly the same until 3-4 weeks ago (she is 15 weeks now). I thought she had silent reflux which was confirmed by the HV. She recommended Carobel which is a thickening powder which can be added to the milk (if formula feeding or expressed milk) or given as a paste if you are exclusively breast feeding. This seemed to work wonders and we have had very little issues since. HV advised that Carobel is the step to try before gaviscon which can only be prescribed by the GP.

Just read this after posting about my own baby crying all day. I don't have any advice but I totally get how you're feeling! It is so hard dealing with the crying when nothing comforts them. Literally nothing seems to work and I have spent hours reading up on ideas! Sending you hugs!xx

Thank you @Melrose86 I'm so sorry to hear you're going through the same thing. It's so draining when their crying none stop and nothing you do helps. As awful as it sounds, I just want to wish this time away.

I know i feel so sad that I look forward to times when he's sleeping so I can relax for a bit. I made the mistake of reading a baby book that said crying peaks at 6 weeks so I naievly thought things would be getting better but this is week 8 and he has cried allllll week :(