Hey hoping people can help. I have a 12 week old DS and 2.5 year old DD and just feel completely unable to cope with my toddler at times. She lashes out at DS with no warning at all and makes it near on impossible to have them both in the same room. I completely understand it’s a massive change for her but just don’t know how to make her stop. We’ve kept her routine exactly the same - nursery 2 days a week, MIL one day a week. Daddy takes her swimming on a Saturday morning. She has plenty of attention. I’ve tries reward charts, treating her when she’s been good. I give her lots of praise when she’s behaving well but just don’t know how to stop her.
I can’t even put DS down when she’s about. I don’t understand what triggers her behaviour as she’ll say things like she wants her nappy changed when he’s having his done, which I get because the attention isn’t on her but this morning he was sat in his bouncer and I was chatting to her and she just threw a toy at his head for no reason. Even when she gets lots of attention it doesn’t seem to stop her. I know she’s only young and it’s a massive difference to her life but just finding it impossible on my own with both of them. Any suggestions? Reassurance that it will pass? Just find myself really struggling.