Am I overreacting?
Okay, so my MIL and I used to get on well, but something has shifted since my DS (13 months) arrived. Now, she seems to have absolutely no respect for me. She cancels plans and stands me up. I also now have to contend with vile comments:
"It's your fault your DS isn't walking yet."
"MY children were potty trained by 18 months. I doubt your son will be with the way you molleycoddle."
"Mummy is stupid, isn't she?" (Said to my son).
"What are you wearing? You ought to make more of an effort."
Last week she came round and wore her muddy shoes inside after I asked politely for her to take them off. She said she couldn't because she had a hole in her tights (?!). I have carpets everywhere in my home, so I spent the evening after her visit on my hands and knees scrubbing the mud out of my floor.
Yesterday she outdid herself. Her son let her into the house and she had a massive goddamn dog with her, who immediately jumped on my sofa and teared up a cushion. She stood there laughing at my horrified reaction. My partner said nothing. The dog growled when anyone went near it, so I scooped my son up and we went out. When I returned home my partner had a massive go at me, calling me selfish, saying that I'm stopping our DS from having a relationship with his grandma. I told him that I'm done with her, that I don't want to see her anymore. If she wants to see him, then she can arrange something with her son.
My partner isn't talking to me now. Am I in the wrong?