Anyone else have a daughter that is terrified of certain men?

[lucymegan]

My dd is 5 and from a baby has screamed blue murder at certain men we've come into contact with. It can be strangers or men in our family and friends circle. For instance she used to be terrified of my brother when she was a baby and she's fine now with him. My best friends husband she is petrified of and dh cousin. It's got to the point it's embarrassing because I feel so bad for them. She hardly sees them maybe once/twice a year tops but whenever my friend (dd godmother) pops in dd instantly asks if her husband is coming. I suppose it's kind of a good thing and means she won't talk/go near strange men but at the same time it's a little embarrassing when you've got a child screaming for no reason 🙈

We was standing in a quie today. An elderly couple was standing behind us and making conversation, the elderly gentleman ask her name and how old is she going to be tomorrow and she hid behind me pulling on my dress.

Anyone else got a child like this?

I was a child like this

If a man with a beard looked at me, I would be frightened and cry

My mum did not drive, and often took me on public transport. It was the 70s, lots of men with beards , on occasion she would ask them to move

It lasted until I was 7 or 8

I am now normal, LOL

I was just about to say ‘is it beards?’
My DD and DNeice always hated men with beards.

My DD was terrified of men with beards until we took her to a Sikh wedding, at the age of four. She was Banghra dancing with the bride’s father by the end of the day.

My daughter was terrified of beards until she was about 5

That was meant to say queue 🙄

I think it started off with beards but my brother has a beard and she's fine now with him. Will talk, kiss and cuddle him. But it doesn't explain dh cousin. He's a big bloke about 25st but no beard 🤔 and he's the most gentle kindest man you'll ever meet. Plus the elderly gentlemen didn't have one.

It's weird because there's other men in the family and she's absolutely normal with them. It's the weirdest thing lol.

@BillywilliamV that made me laugh lol.

I was terrified of beards when I wasn’t small, now married to a man with a beard!

my daughter is nearly 2 and has been terrified of various male family members / random men in public since she was about 6months old.
some have beards some don't.
at the moment it's my uncle she is petrified of. she was fine with him at the beginning of the year.
before Christmas it was my dad she wasnt keen on. now they are the best of friends.

i don't understand it. its embarrassing and uncomfortable but I keep saying "it's just a phase"

I was scared of particularly big/hairy men. Still am on occasion...

A little cousin of mine had this with certain guys who we knew really well and genuinely were lovely and not pushy or overly friendly etc - she managed to explain she didn't like "boomy" voices when she was able to articulate. Could it be something like that? We are quite a women heavy family just by chance, more people had daughters than sons, so we think that might be why she reacted that way to the particularly boomy voices!

I know it must be difficult but I think try to see it as good she has instincts and reactions and that she has lovely family like you who won't push her too far out of her comfort zone, so she feels (and is) safe x

My sister was like this until about 7. If she went to tea with a friend when the dad came home she would start crying and have to be taken home. Was just a mental phase our own dad lovely so a mystery - she’s a totally normal confident adult now

Our DD has suddenly decided, at 6 months, that she’s scared of EVERYONE apart from her dad and I. She screamed until she was sick because a lady in Tesco said hi to her 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

@MsTSwift this is what dd is like 😳 she's been invited after school to friends houses to play but won't go because of the dads being their 🤦🏻‍♀️ I have to make excuses up about why she can't go.

My DD, now 6, used to be afraid if very elderly people, I think it was their skin, she said she didn't like how they were 'crumbly. This was slightly awkward wrt my 96yr old Gran. DD is more or less over it now, but has confided her discomfort with my DM's 'crumbly' boobs

Dd1 disliked all men except her dad and one male friend of ours- he is tall and slim.. no beard.. i was so worried when she started school how she would be if there was any male visitors/male teachers/male vicars etc but she has been fine with men since starting. She is still shy but not petrified like she was previously. She is 6yo now. I was just honest about it when she was younger.. that she has always been worried around men since she was a baby. 🤷‍♀️

I was like this as I child. Don't know why. I'm ok now!