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Bitey 19mo old. Any tips?

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User24689 · 26/05/2019 17:19

Hi all. My 19mo old DS has had a habit of biting for a couple of months now that seems to be getting worse. He is currently teething all 4 first molars which may be a factor but we have a long way to go until they are completely through and I am looking for some strategies to deal with this.

He has only ever bitten me and his sister. usually in frustration, if he's having a tantrum, if I try to pick him up when he doesn't want to be, if I'm trying to put him in the buggy when he doesn't want to go in, if his sister has a toy he wants etc etc. This past week though he seems to have started biting just for the hell of it. I was inspired to post tonight because while I was preparing dinner he walked up behind me in the kitchen and bit me on the back of my thigh for no reason and it has left a mark even through jeans! It's really painful when he does it and I'm now quite worried about taking him to groups where he might do it to another child with absolutely no warning.

We've tried moving him to 'time out', we've tried giving his sister loads of over the top attention and sympathy immediately after he does it, I've tried reacting really strongly with a squeal so he knows it hurts. I now tell him clearly that it hurts because he understands that word now. He never seems particularly bothered. Sometimes he cries. Sometimes he just grins at us!

He's a lovely boy in other ways but very strong willed and we don't want this to become a bigger problem. Anyone been through this who can help?! TIA!

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TheWeatherGirl1 · 27/05/2019 07:45

No advice, I'm afraid, just sympathy as I have a biter too.
So far it's only my flesh he likes the taste of, and sadly I never seem to deal with it well as I'm always busy shouting 'OW'

ElspethFlashman · 27/05/2019 07:48

Try crying. Put on a bit of a show. Might get through to him that it makes people sad.

User24689 · 29/05/2019 17:36

Thanks both. I have tried making a fuss but doesn't seem to have any effect on him at all. I have noticed he also bites inanimate things - he bit the swing at the park today because I took him out of it as it was time to go home! I don't Think he understands that biting people hurts and he just does it to release frustration. I'll keep trying to hammer it home with him I suppose and hope it passes soon!

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Mrsjayy · 29/05/2019 17:45

They do it because they don't know how to communicate and biting gets a reaction most toddlers go through it I would stop making afuss as far as you can (obviously he can't be biting his sister ) and see how that goes the reaction he gets from biting satisfys his need for attention I would go with a firm no biting or be gentle and try distracting him if he bites his Sister then fuss her and ignore him.

User24689 · 29/05/2019 19:30

Thanks Mrsjay - that is a change of approach that I can see the logic in. We'll give it a go!

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Mrsjayy · 29/05/2019 19:35

Hey anything is worth a go Smile

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CatsThinkMiceSmellLovely · 29/05/2019 20:17

Trample it

Lightbright · 29/05/2019 20:22

My boy went through a biting phase at around the same age. I’d try to explain that it hurt mummy but I’m not sure it registered - he would get upset that I was upset. Our childminder said that when it happened while he was with them, they’d place him on his back and tell him no. It sounds a bit strange but I tried the same tactic - not sure if it was that tactic which got the message across, but he did get over that stage after a month or so.

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