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I’m a bit of a shit parent

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RobotNews · 22/05/2019 11:39

I’ve been a sahp for 2 loooong years since my second was born and childcare became unaffordable for two dc. Dc1 now gets free hours in a local nursery (15) and dc2 still at home with me.

More and more I find myself putting on the telly, hoping they’ll entertain themselves and burying myself in housework (without ever seeming to get very far through it!).

I am longing for next September when dc2 will also get his free hours and I can have a bit of my time back.

I never wanted to be a sahp but a house move and change to dh’s job meant it was our only option really. Tell me I’m not the only one who can’t wait to get back to work (albeit part time!?)

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Metalhead · 22/05/2019 14:31

I’ve gone back to full time now that DD2 gets her free hours! She’s 3.5 and I honestly don’t like spending time with her at the moment... she doesn’t listen to anything you say, and constantly whinges about something or other. I think 3 is definitely my least favourite age so far, it was the same with DD1. (She’s nearly 9 now, and even though she can strop and sulk to rival any moody teenager, at least I can do interesting stuff with her like baking and jigsaw puzzles.)

giantdinosaur · 22/05/2019 16:28

I don't think any of this makes you a shit parent. As long as your children are loved and happy you're not doing anything wrong!

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pipnchops · 22/05/2019 16:34

I'm sure you're not a shit parent but you do sound unfulfilled by being a sahp which is fine, it's not everyone's bag. Perhaps now your eldest qualifies for free childcare you could look at going back to work part time and the money you earn could pay for childcare for your youngest?

BigusBumus · 22/05/2019 16:39

I felt exactly like you. I wasn't a natural baby & toddler group person, hated everyone at NCT and spent 4 years alone with my sons alternating between feeding the ducks, pushing swings and watching CBeebies. I was thankful when they were all old enough to be at Playschool and school and i could work again.

But I don't beat myself up about it as i know there were others ways in which i was / am a fab mum!

Some people love being a sahm some don't.

Whiskyagogo · 23/05/2019 14:15

Oh yes, I could definitely written your post OP! I've been doing it for 7 years now I can't wait to get a bit of time to myself once the youngest starts nursery in September.

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