19 months and just whinges to everything

[MGlaze]

Hi mums, I’m new on here and I’m looking for some advice. My 19 month old just whinges at everything, he won’t talk (say words) he just pulls you to what he wants then stand and whinge until he gets what he wants. :( it’s so frustrating & it upset me cz I don’t know what he wants sometimes. So I get upset and angry. I know every child is different and he’ll talk when he’s ready but please any advice for me to help him say milk, etc instead of whining and screaming at me.

My DS whinged from the age of 12-24 months, honestly. It's a nightmare age. They are trying to communicate but can't, they are still a bit rubbish at moving their body the way they want to, they have hardly any control over anything, they want to explore everything so they are constantly being told 'no'... It's hard. My DD is 12 months and is the same.

It passes, it gets so much easier. Once my son began to approach 2 and speak it was a game changer. He will do it in his own time but try to read with him plenty, point to things and say the words, try to just chat with him as much as possible. Give him independence in any situations that allow it, choosing from two different cups or two different yoghurts.

Hang in there!

I know the exact noise you mean, my DD does it (19 months) sometimes and it's so frustrating to listen to!

Every time she does it we say "no, we don't like that noise, use your words" and if it's something she can't say I will say "can you say "bucket please"" or whatever and she will attempt to say it, I thank her, then we move on. She does do it a lot though, several times a day.

Will your DS attempt to ask for things when you ask him or does he not want to try yet? Could you just say "I can't hear that noise" or say "shhhh" and get him to copy you? And only pass him things if he is quiet first?

I am probably not very helpful, this is what I would try though probably. Sending you strength. I know it's so hard to hear our own children being frustrated! They know the exact noise to make to get to us. If someone else's baby was being fussy with me I don't think it would bother me at all!

Morning mums Thank you both for your advice been very helpful.
I do try and read to him and do word show cards but he just doesn’t want to sit still long enough to get past the first page. Then he wants to book to eat:( I’m starting to feel like I’ve done everything and yet he’ll still whinge for what he wants. Once again thank you ladies and I’ll definitely give these things a try..

don't be hard on yourself @MGlaze

i hope it starts to get a bit easier for you. children change so quickly. i think sometimes we just have to be patient and prepare for the next hurdle. when we have teenagers we might look back on this time and think it was so easy!

thinking of you xxx

@chikiTIkl thanks You means a lot
It’s just people was saying he should be talking a lot more and it really got to me. Think them saying that made me realise how much my little one did whinge. But he’s starting to say a lot more these past few days. He even said “daddy made a mess” out of no where. So thank you so much for your support and help techniques.
Your definitely right there in years to come I’ll be wishing we can turn back time 😂
Thank you