Coping as a mother

[danielley2807]

Can I ask you ladies something honestly?... Am I the only one who, at least once a day, thinks "how am I going to keep coping with this" in regards to every day stresses with an 11 month old daughter?

I'm not a single mum, but I live like one, my partner works away in Germany so we dont see him very often. I won't bother going into too much background or describing my life as I don't feel it's necessary, I just want to know if I'm the only one who thinks like that. I thought it was pretty normal to be honest, I love my daughter, I wouldn't change a thing about her, the only thing I question is how I will keep coping. My OH thinks I am wrong for thinking that way, hence why I am now questioning myself as a parent and wondering if he is right, and I am wrong for thinking such a way.

I really would appreciate honest opinions on this one.

Sometimes I do yes. I have four kids and at times it's hard work. I cope because I have to, there's no other option. Sometimes it can be hard but you just have to keep going, do the best you can and ask for help if you really need it.
I think you gain confidence the longer you have been doing it. My eldest is now 10 and I don't struggle anymore the way I did in the beginning.

I know how you feel and I honestly think you just get used to it. My eldest is not 3.9 and I’m beginning to forget what it might be like not to have the responsibility

I also have 3 children, my 2 elder girls spend half the time at their dads and half with me. They're 9 and 11, they're good girls and help me a lot with the baby. I'm not struggling in the sense of I dont think I can do it, I think what I'm struggling with the most is doing it by myself, I dont have that person to watch the baby so I can go to the toilet, or have 10 minutes to myself to enjoy a coffee, and that's fine, I'm happy to live like that for a few years, I know I'll miss it all when she is the same age as the girls. It's just that it is hard, sometimes I do struggle, sometimes I wish the world would swallow me whole! And I think I should be allowed to voice that without someone (especially my OH) thinking that makes me a bad mother. We all talk about the good, we post things on social media, send photos to family and friends of our children doing new things etc. So why not the bad?

I've never questioned myself as a mother in that respect before. I have wondered if I was making the right decisions etc, but I have never questioned my mind. I guess it came as a shock that he said it and it put doubts in my head.