Please tell me it gets better - introducing 2 year old DS to new baby sister

[SuzieBishop]

My DS is 2 and 3 months. He has a speech delay and struggles to understand a bit so he never really got that he was getting a new sister.
Took her home on Wednesday and it’s been a bit shit - he’s happy till he spots her then he’s grumpy as anything. He’s just constantly gurning and moaning and cries every time she makes a peep.
Just looking for reassurance really that it’ll get better as the way it’s going it seems like he’ll hate her forever

You’ll be fine, it’s really early days and it will get better.

My ds1 was 18 months when ds2 was born. He was too young to understand what was happening and he was really scared when we brought the baby home. The crying scared him and he was really out of sorts for a few days. It broke my heart and I felt terrible and thought I’d ruined his life!

I’m happy to say it got a lot better very quickly. Ds1 realised the baby was nothing to be scared of and started to get interested in him. I tried to involve him as much as possible. Before long he was stroking his hair, giving him hugs and kisses.

Ds2 is 5 months now and adores his big brother. He laughs his head off whenever he even comes into sight and ds1 has completely accepted him. I doubt he remembers a time when he wasn’t here to be honest.

It will be ok! Hang in there. You’ve given him an amazing gift of a sibling. He might not appreciate it yet but he will. Good luck and congratulations

Promise it gets better. My first tried to smother her baby sister and weed on her sling on purpose. 4 years later they are best friends.

Thank you for replying- it’s just so hard to see how it’ll ever get better but I know they will....eventually!

Have you got a present for him from the baby? We did that, we said we took the baby out shopping and held up lots of toys and the one that the baby smiled at was the one that we got! We chose something she absolutely loved, so we said that her baby brother must love it too?!

We also gave her lots of important jobs to help with the baby. And the grandparents brought round a little present for her as well. So she saw it as this great time for attention and presents. We also praised her constantly for anything she did for him.

He particularly liked her singing and when he smiled at her for the first time, I think she was as smitten as we were!

They are now seven and five and they are either the best of friends or worst enemies! So it does get better but it also gets worse at times!!