Travelling with 11 month old

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A close friend is getting married in Mexico (a resort town near the sea, we'd be staying in our own apartment).
I have currently have a 5 month old, at the time of the wedding she'll be 11 months.

I've been advised by the nurse who gave her her vaccinations that it might not be worth the risk to take her with us as she is under a year and won't be immunised against hep A and the other vaccinations they get at one year (measles etc) yet. Also, mosquitoes.

I'm a first time mum and I trust my in-laws to look after her (and they're very happy to), they live very near and she sees them often..but even now the thought of leaving her makes me stomach turn. But so does the thought of putting her at any risk.. is the nurse being a little too cautious?

Also, the wedding is mostly an early evenings/night time event, so not ideal for a baby who needs to be asleep.

I really would love love love to be able to go to this wedding and also have a little holiday - our first proper one in a couple of years.
I'd love to take her with us too, but have been put off by the nurses advice.

What would you do?

I figure my options are:

A.) Bring her and leave the wedding early
B.) Bring her and invite my MIL (we get on quite well) on holiday to babysit her on the night of the wedding (gets the rest of the time off to drink cocktails and enjoy herself).
C.) Leave her with my in-laws/her doting grandparents in the UK for 4-5 days and miss her
D.) Don't go to the wedding/mexico at all

Thoughts please?
Is this a damned if you do, damned if you don't scenario - should I just forget it altogether? Lay your judgement on me pls

There’s no right answer, it’s completely your choice based on what you’re comfortable with but personally I’d jump at the chance to do option C!!

I would ask for or pay privately to get the 1 year jabs a bit early, which is perfectly possible to do. Go to the wedding, stay as late as you can (you’ll probably be able to manage 8-9pm if you’re all adjusted to the time change). I wouldn’t be able to leave her at home. That’s a really tricky age for separation anxiety and it would be horrible for both of you.

Honestly, the hardest part will not be the wedding. A long flight with a crawling baby is rough and you can’t always count on them to sleep. Also you’ll need at least 3-4 days first to adjust to the time difference. My dd was older but we flew to California. It definitely took 5 days to really adjust. The first few her days started at 2:30 am. It was hell. I was so tired. So I would build in time for that before the wedding.

That's interesting Mindutopia, I didn't know you could get the jabs early. Changes things a bit. I was definitely worried about the seperation anxiety issue round this age, and would love her to come with us.

Thanks both you for your replies!

I wouldn't have been able to leave our DS, I would definitely pay to get the 1yr jabs early and have a great holiday, and still possibly take MIL for babysitting duties for the nighttime so DD can sleep at the apartment if she is tired out

It's your decision, but I'd skip this wedding. Long-haul with a baby can be pretty grim. Not just the flight, but the fact that it takes babies a long time to adjust to the timezone (and again when you get back). Why not take your PIL on a holiday somewhat closer? Agree what babysitting duties they are happy to take on, you get a break and time with your husband. They get to spend time with your child and also a little break.

Honestly? I'd probably skip the wedding. I have an almost 11 month old who wants to crawl and stand up all the time and travelling long distance would be a total faff. I also wouldn't be happy to put him at any risk of the various diseases etc you mention, just no worth it.

The only exception would be if it really was my best best friend and I couldn't bear missing it. And only then if I could get him to have his jabs early (what is the lag between jab and having protection?). Also remember the bride and groom won't have much time for you o the day itself.

In case anyone is looking up this question in future: we went to the wedding, my MiL came too and babysat whilst we had a great time at the wedding (also were able to go out for dinner two nights on our own). Our daughter slept 80% of the flight and had a ball with the touch screen tv the rest of the time. I breastfed the whole time and prepared her solid food myself (self catering/airbnb) so didn't worry too much about the Hep A jab, the only one she really would have needed. We couldn't do ant adventure activities but we chilled by the pool and on the beach.
Different but a lot easier than I imagined (baby adjusted to time zone after 4 days).