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Am I the only one feeling this way

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Abbie24 · 17/05/2019 17:41

my sister has recently had a baby and is always asking people to take photos of the two of them together. It has recently upset me as I realised I'm only in 20 photos with my daughter in her first year and now it makes me sad as I'm the only mum absent from photos. Can you help to reassure me and let me now that I'm not the only one who is absent in photos. Its been worrying me for a while.

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lolaflores · 17/05/2019 17:43

20? I have none of me and my mum.
Will you please find something else to fret about.
Is it a competition.

Pipandmum · 17/05/2019 17:46

I’m the photographer and I’d be hard pressed to find more than a handful of me with my kids from the last 15 years. But whenever we visited my mum I tried to make sure we got a pic of her and the kids. Dead 5 years now. And wish I’d taken more of kids with their dad as he died almost ten years ago.

RaptorWhiskers · 17/05/2019 17:48

I purposely avoid being in photos. DS is beautiful and I’m ugly. I don’t want to see photos of myself.

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JuniLoolaPalooza · 17/05/2019 17:49

It's an absolute thing that mums are always behind the camera instead of in front of it. Your sister has the right idea!
It is a shame but you have your special memories and you can start getting the pictures in now.

Tigger001 · 17/05/2019 17:54

Your sister definitely should be getting in on every photo possible. It's a shame you missed out but starting snapping now.

I absolute love photies of my son, I am not in as many as I would like to be but the dreaded selfie option on your phone helps, as it's so difficult to get a good snap.

BasilBooBoo · 17/05/2019 18:26

I totally get this. I hate photos of myself but I just do it and accept they are for the baby in the future not me.

Get snapping now.

Calmingvibrations · 17/05/2019 18:30

I’m with you. I think I have less than that, and what I do have is attempts at selfies in desperation to get a photo. I’ve gone on and on about it to OH and he makes all the right noises but nothing changes. I think I have even less in the second year. It upsets me too.

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Abbie24 · 17/05/2019 19:52

Thank you for your replies. I guess it has been getting to me recently as the photos I thought I had I didn't as I was cropped out of them and I lost 2 months of my photos on my mobile when it broke when she was 3 and 4 months old. And the photos were never backed up. I'm scared when she's older she will think I was never there. But deep down I now that's not true as I'm with her 24 7.

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mistermagpie · 17/05/2019 20:16

In the kindest way possible, you are being a bit silly. I'm the photographer in our house (and I'm doing a photography night class so take a lot of photos) so am rarely in photos with my children. It has never occurred to me that they might look at them and think I wasn't there, mainly because, you know, I was there.

Don't let this upset you, but start now! I ask my DH to take photos of me and the children sometimes just so there are some and I do cherish those. So ask people!

Chippychipsforme · 17/05/2019 22:40

Then do something about it! Ask people to take photos of you, take selfies, set up a timer.

AHintOfStyle · 17/05/2019 22:43

Don’t let people tell you that you’re being silly or over reacting!
But good you’ve realised! Get in ALL the photos from now on!
Until of course ‘teenager’ hits and there will be a blanket ban on all photos EVER!!

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