DD wants to go on "the voice kids"

[MummySharkDoodoododoo]

I really need some advice here. She can't sing. She believes she is a great singer. She is desperate to go
On a TV talent show such as the voice kids. She is 11.

She won't get anywhere with it as she isn't talented in singing bless her. She has lots of Talents, but singing isn't one of them. She thinks she is amazing.

She has done the school talent show every year and never got past the first round - so wouldn't stand a chance.

What do I do? She is so desperate to do it. I don't want to burst her bubble by telling her she can't sing, but also don't want her to go and make a fool of herself. Plus the logistics would be a nightmare as she has 3 SEN siblings. But I don't want to put the blame on them and add to any resentment.

I'm really stuck in how to handle this. She has a friend who wants to do it with her and they keep making plans and practicing songs at school.

My DD 10 auditioned last year, she isn't a terrible singer but she isn't brilliant, she made a video of her singing and I sent it to them via email as part of the process thinking they wouldn't call her to go to an audition...they did!

It cost a fortune to get her to the audition, she auditioned in front of 2 people a voice coach and a producer...they were asking her questions but the producer had such a strong accent and she couldn't understand him that she went shy and couldn't answer him properly.

By the time she got to the singing bit this had knocked her confidence - she actually sang really well but she didn't get through as she wasn't confident enough!
I thought it might have put her off but it hasn't she wants to go again this year!
It's a good experience for them though!

If she was my daughter I would let her go. She will experience many disappointments in life I'm sure, I don't think it will do her any harm experiencing one at 11 if you really think she cannot sing. I would perhaps try and make a day of it with her and her friend, maybe go somewhere nice for tea afterwards?

Thank you. I didn't. Realise they had to send a video off first of all, that's good I guess.

I just hope they aren't mean to her - she is a sensitive soul but I guess she needs to toughen up at some point!

Just say “No”. You’re the parent for goodness sake try acting like one. By bursting her bubble now, you’re avoiding building her hopes up then doing it or having it happen on national TV.

Has she ever heard herself sing? We often sound very different to how we think we sound. It might be good to make the video and then watch it with her to "see what she thinks".

That's a good plan - help her and her friend practice their audition and make a video and watch it back. If they still want to go for it, help get them ready to experience rejection.

Manclif - what a lovely, helpful comment. I'm off to go and try to start acting like a parent now, thank you for that, the idea had never crossed my mind before

Record them singing and playing it back. They may change there minds. If not I'd do a video and if they are happy I'd send it off. The company will get thousands of videos and it's unlikely they will get picked to audition and go on the show judging by your review of them so you don't have to worry about logistics, money and public rejection.
Your DD will learn a valuable lesson about going for her dreams and taking chances and will also learn resilience when things don't go as she wished.

at least you are not one of those parents who thinks their kids are great at everything !! Maybe send the audition tape in and worry about it later? if she doesn't get a call back, which from your post sounds likely, then you are not the bad parent who said no. and it will be a good lesson for her. good luck

tell them you've sent it but dont actually send it