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Is my baby too independent?

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MrsMaow · 16/05/2019 17:22

She’s 6 months old, until she was 4ish months she would only nap on me, just cried and cried if I put her in her cot. She gradually got better until now she won’t nap on me at all, she just tries to climb off me and explore.

When I put her down on her mat to play and I sit or lie down with her so I’m facing her, she just pivots so she’s facing away from me and practices her crawling technique.

She’ll sit in her high chair and be quite happy just licking the straps, I’ll chat to her and try to give her a toy and she smiles at me, then pretty much instantly chucks the toy, looks away, and it’s back to licking the straps again.

When she wakes in the night she doesn’t want me to comfort her, I try patting, shushing, cuddling and it just makes her cry but as soon as I put her dummy back in for her she’s straight back to sleep.

This might sound stupid but is this weird? Have I broken her somehow or made her less attached by getting her to nap in her own bed? It was gradual and gentle but this just feels so weird after 4 months of almost permanently being pinned underneath her, she was like a Velcro baby and now it seems like the opposite. We had feeding issues as well and I wonder if she’s gone off me because I’m the one that kept giving her the milk that made her have reflux.

I only have one friend with a baby and she was super clingy all her first year and now beyond, so I have no idea what to think about this

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Stylemebabyonemoretime · 16/05/2019 18:41

Just be thankful. Most parenting issues are a stage, just hope this one is not.

Divgirl2 · 16/05/2019 20:12

Sounds normal to me. She's confident enough to not need you all the time. It's a good thing!

SMaCM · 17/05/2019 04:31

You've spent the last 6 months showing her she's secure with you and that's given her the confidence to be independent. This is a good thing. Let her explore the things she is interested in.

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Alicewond · 17/05/2019 04:35

She sounds like she feels safe not having to cling to you, you’ve done well she’s this secure

Aquamarine1029 · 17/05/2019 04:39

She sounds absolutely perfect and content to me. I don't think you have a single thing to worry about.

MrsMaow · 25/05/2019 09:23

Bit late now but just wanted to say thanks to everyone who replied. I will try and think that it’s a good thing that she feels so safe to explore and just wish she was less interested in things with electronics inside them or things with sharp corners or the salt shaker or [insert various other dangerous objects here]

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sleepysleepy19 · 25/05/2019 20:47

Enjoy it! My 6 month old has gone the opposite way; was a wonderfully independent 3-6 month old who loved nothing better than sitting in a bouncy chair looking out of the window. Now she is constantly whining for me to entertain her while at home (she’s an angel out of the house), and screams blue murder when anyone else other than me or her dad pick her up!

Independent sleep has remained, thank goodness but still.....can we maybe hybrid our babies please?

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