My son's friends are self harming do I intervene?

[MrsDoyle30]

Hi All this is my first post. I'm a Mum to a 13 year old boy. His friends who are girls have told him they are cutting themselves. Some have said they were going to kill themselves too. All around the 12/13 age. So I've 4 of these girls cutting. One has told her parents others haven't. They've shown him photos too. Do I ignore it or how can I help? I dont know any of their parents.

I also don't want my son listening to this day after day. Their conversations are all deep and depressing how life is crap etc. As a mother I can't sit and do nothing though. Any advice would be great thanks so much

In your shoes I would ring school. ...

Yeah I've gone to do this a few times. Wasn't sure if it was the right thing or not.

Assuming they are school friends then ring the head of year. If not then ring ss. This is a safeguarding issue.

As a life long sh'er there is nothing you can personally do other than ontact the school/parents about the girls.
I don't know how you can support your son though. But when I've had things happen that could have impacted my son I have contacted his head of year.
But, please please please don't question the girls themselves unless they bring it up with you. I can talk about it but when I feel 'attacked' I clam up, and it makes everything a whole lot worse.

Dd's confided one do their friends was being abused. Rang school who dealt with it as I had no real details except names.. Ss did get involved. You know the info op, imo you need to pass it on.

I'd never approach the girls I've read up on it as much as I can and that advice was not to question them so I wouldn't. My heart goes out to them all thinking that everything in life is crap. 3 of them in same school so ill approach that school first. Thank you all. I had confided in a friend who threw her eyes to heaven and called them all attention seekers. This upset me alot and my own husband told me it was nothing to do with me.
But my gut told me i couldn't ignore it xx

Totally agree that you need to ring school. Your son is telling you for a reason, he wants you to do something. Speak to the the Safeguarding Lead at the school, don't speak to anyone at the school about it unless it's in complete confidence, eg. don't tell those on reception, form tutor, etc. It might just be something and nothing but you need to flag it up with school, definitely.

Even If they are attention seeking, something still isn't right in their lives, and they are still asking for help.
You are really doing the right thing by getting involved.

Tell the school please.

Exactly, theworldistoosmall.
I don't understand why so many people think that "attention seeking" means that no attention should be given.