school yard cliques

[busymama2]

hi im new to this so any advice would be greatly appreciated.

my two children are 18months apart and attend the same school, my oldesr child is friendly with 4girls with who three of their mothers are all friendly outside of school. i used to be friendly wirh one of the mothers but she deoot me and seems to dlit from one ro tge next. three of the girls all attend a gymnastics class class and i know they meet regular for park/play dtaes etc. my oldest gas never said she feels left out, but as the parents have no interesr in making me part of their c clique i feel like im being outcast and so is my girl. one of the mothers always used to bleat on how she hates. bullying etc but isnt this a form of it? im in ear shot when they arrange palydates bit its said so i can hear. am i better off doing what i do and keeping my self to myself as who needs friends like this and will my eldest and these girls be friends anyway after primary scbool (should their friendship continue) regardless of the parents? tia xx

sorry typo should read she dropt me and flits from one to another 😒

Does your daughter see her friends outside of school at all?
Any reasons why she doesn’t go to gymnastics class?
Does she have any other friends?
Do you have any mummy friends?

I've never experienced playground cliques despite being a primary school with 800 kids.
However I have experienced parents who have kids who do the same class choosing to hang out together. That's normal, not a clique. These parents likely share lifts etc. My dd did gymnastics and I did socialise with other mums and kids, share lifts, meet up outside gymnastics and chat the them in the playground.
Have you had these girls for play dates? Have you organised mums meet ups or trips to the park? Have you had them round for coffee, bbq whatever?
It does take effort to make friends.
However there are likely to be 20 other kuds in class who don't do gymnastics who you and your dd can hang out with. But you have to do some of the inviting, organising and hosting

yeah i do have other mummy friends whose kids go to different schools, i was really friendly with one of the friends mams and i was ill i mean really life threatening ill and ever since iv recovered shes not wanged to know me. the other two parents i understand know each other from way back as live on same estate. iv encouraged my daughter to make other friends in her class too, i have had these kids round for play dates numerous of times (before i fell ill) and the invite has never been returned but i do know they go to each others houses as my daughter tells me. i was really paranoid for a whike they dont like me, thats fair enough (tho iv never give them any reason too) im polite will stop and chat and i volinteer on the pta. is it just a case of these people i wouldnt normally choose to make friends with though feels it shouod be forced only because of our kids being in the same school and living in same area? tia

my daughter is on a waiting list for gymnastics but at a different class thats does things shes trialled and enjoys.

i should have said the school has less than 200 including nursery right up to yr 6.