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Greenfield19 · 15/05/2019 16:24

Due to where we lived when my kids started school they don’t go to school in the town we live in. When we moved house we didn’t move them school because it wasn’t really a huge hassle to drop them off and they were happy and settled.

Today one of my children mentioned being left out at playtime/lunchtime and it got me thinking more about something that’s been playing on my mind for a while.

I’ve always been concerned that not living in the town they go to school will have negative impacts on friendships - we obviously don’t walk to and from school and see other kids on the way, the kids can’t just go to the park and play with people they’d play with at school, we’ve never had any play dates (would struggle anyway as I work though tbf). I really do worry that they’re not making those close friendships that they could or should be.

This has been concerning me for a while but today has made this even worse and I’m now thinking do we move house to that town? It wouldn’t be ideal as the house we live in now would need a bit of work to sell but I really just want to give them the best start. It’s obviously a huge decision.

For info I definitely wouldn’t move them to a school in the town we live in. I’d move house before I’d move them school.

Any advice really would be appreciated, maybe from parents in a similar boat.

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Greenfield19 · 15/05/2019 16:24

Sorry just to add, as they’re still young I wouldn’t be able to just let them go out to play yet anyway. That’s something that would maybe start in the next two years or so.

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7salmonswimming · 15/05/2019 16:26

How old are they?

What’s the situation with secondary schools?

Greenfield19 · 15/05/2019 16:34

Under 10, sorry to be vague!

The secondary school is in our town so when all of the kids move up I obviously hope they will make friends from our town but that time are they all quite settled in friendship groups?

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7salmonswimming · 15/05/2019 17:14

Well I wouldn’t consider moving for 3/4/5 years, when you’ll have them in secondary in your own town anyway.

Friendship groups may be settled when they move, but it would be a strange group of 11yos who stay immutably stuck in them for the next 7 years.

Are you the only family in this situation?

It sounds like you will just have to make an effort if you’re so worried about this. Weekends, extra-curricular activities, offer to host play dates etc. Organise a babysitter who’s happy to do things with your children after school.

Without knowing if your children are 4yo or 9yo, it’s difficult to say more really.

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