DD is 10, in y5 at school. The school mix classes up every year and it's 3 classes per year group so they can go a couple of years before being in a class with a particular pupil - that may be relevant.
DD was friends with A in the younger years of primary but they drifted apart a couple of years ago when they were put in different classes. This year they've been in the same class again and have rekindled their friendship which is lovely. A is also good friends with B who's also in the same class and they've been playing as a group of 3.
DD and A are perfectly happy with this however B's mum has spoken to the teacher twice now to say her child feels pushed out. After the 1st time, I spoke to DD to make sure nobody was being left out, etc etc.
(It may be worth adding at this point that i work in this school and whilst I have nothing to do with the girls during the day, I can see their playground and see them all playing quite happily)
I won't lie and say DD is an angel but she's generally an easygoing child who'll just play with whoever. None of this bestie thing. B however is rather reliant on A and doesn't really have any other friends.
DD has come home upset saying her teacher told her that b's mum had complained and that he doesn't think they should play in a 3 anymore. I told DD to play with other people but she's been having a great time with A and B and she doesn't see what the problem is.
What's the best way to deal with this? DD doesn't want to lose a good friend for reasons that are not apparent to her but also doesn't want parents coming in complaining about her! I asked DD how she wants to deal with things and she's just really confused. I've told her I'll support her whatever.
Should I tell her teacher to stop telling her about these complaints?! I do sympathise with how B may be feeling a bit jealous or threatened but DD has chatted to her before to let her know she's not trying to 'steal' her friend.
Should also mention, once a week A has music lessons so B always insists DD play with her that day and it's very much feeling like DD is only accepted by B when B has nobody else to play with.
(Sorry, that was long and I know it all sounds ridiculous and I don't get involved with my children's friendship issues normally but feel I need to do something as she's so upset about being complained about by a parent)