Hi all. My partner cheated on me a week ago and the night before she cheated on me, she told me she wasn't happy anymore. I found out a day after she cheated and I confronted her. She swore nothing happened and she said she's not been happy for a while even though we have been talking about our future with us and the kids a few weeks ago. At the same time, a few weeks ago, she also said she didn't know whether she wanted us to carry on because she wasn't happy but we had a lot going on at this point so I put it down to that and told her things will get better. Although I now know this was the time when she met someone else and started to message him. Her friend felt bad about me not knowing and told me that she did infact cheat on me when she met another man last week. Our whole family knows what has happened and they are lettings us get on with it without too much interference. I said I'd move out and I'm currently at my mothers house on the sofa. As my ex works at the moment and I don't, I've been going back to house to look after the children on the days that she works. I've hopefully secured a job and have an interview on Wednesday and I have told her that when I'm working and because the children live with her she'll have to quit her job so I can work as I will be required to look for work. She hates this idea but has reluctantly agreed. She has also told me that she things it's unfair, that now I'm staying at my mothers and she's looking after the kids, I can go out and socialise but she can't. She has also asked me to look after the children at night so that she can go and meet up with the guy that she has cheated on me with. I've been ignoring any messages and have been trying to see her as less as possible for 2 days now. She has messaged me a couple of times whilst I've been away asking me how she works a particular thing in the house that only I used to deal with. I'm unsure whether this is an excuse to message me or not as a quick Google search would tell her what she needs to know without messaging me. We were content as far as I was aware as we weren't happy or sad but just in the middle. We were intimate and have been 3 times since the break up a week ago and we were still sharing the same bed and laughing and joking. Maybe now I realise that we should have made more of an effort to spend more time together without the kids and we both have agreed on this. I'm asking for advice on how to deal with this as I feel I shouldn't be looking after the kids whilst she works. I feel like I should stay away and every 3 days maybe I should see the kids for a couple of hours and do the same when I start my job soon. I feel like this because I feel most men would have straight up walked out when they had found out they had been cheated on regardless of whether they have kids or not and then maybe after a few days they would have returned and talked but I didn't. I stormed out and cam home later on and looked after the kids the next day whilst she went to work and she effectively got her own way. She's still saying that I can sleep there but I've said no because we need space. It seems she wanted us and a happy family but at the same time she has wanted to be free and single. What would you do in my situation? I do eventually want to try again with her and try to approach things differently and have a normal happy family. I'm not sure that in the future she'll want that or not. I'm 5 years older than her and she was 17 when we met and I feel like she see's her friends who haven't grown up yet and wants the life they have and some of her immature friends have also expressed their jealousy and tried to break us apart more than once.