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3 week old won't sleep in Moses basket - is next to me crib worth it?

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Graceym · 12/05/2019 18:16

Hi everyone,

My DD is 3 weeks old and has always hated sleeping in her Moses basket. I have tried tilting it slightly, warming it up and putting in something that smells of me. Even if she is asleep on me and I carefully move her in she will wake up and cry! During the day she is happy to go in the car seat and also sometimes I can get her settled in a vibrating bouncy seat.

She is currently co-sleeping with me and only really settles if my arms are around her, then I slide her away from me and hope she stays asleep. This is the only way I can get any sort of decent sleep. Would giving a next to me crib be worth a try? If anyone has any experience of this I would love to know. My OH is a smoker so is currently on the sofa as it is unsafe to co-sleep and to be honest I miss him and it's exhausting doing the nights alone! Tia x

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Chippychipsforme · 12/05/2019 19:47

She's only new and it takes a while for them to get used to it. They do really like being close to you - it's only natural. We had both and he slept in both but preferred the next to me.

I'd advise you to check the guidance about SIDS on the lullaby trust. A smoker OH would be on the sofa till he'd given up if it was me.

Nanalisa60 · 12/05/2019 19:53

Try wrapping your baby in a swaddle blanket!!

waddlemyway · 12/05/2019 20:27

I upvote the swaddling.
We had a co-sleeping bed called a baby-bay. Both DDs were right next to me, when they wouldn't settle I'd nose right up to them and put the corner of my duvet over them till they fell asleep, knowing they were safe in their own bit if the bed. We haven't been able to sell it as it is constantly on loan to friends and family.
DD1 was also really cold in our room. I put a baby sheepskin on her mattress in desperation one night and we never looked back. Super comfy and a natural temperature regulator.

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waddlemyway · 12/05/2019 20:30

When i say 'over them' i don't mean over their head, just in case that wasn't obvious. Just a corner on top of their body till they fell asleep. Felt heavy, felt warm, smelled of mum.

Spanneroo · 12/05/2019 20:39

Co-sleeping was a life saver for us. Neither of mine would sleep in their own space for a good few months, and DD2 in particular is a horrendous sleeper, and still needs to be able to reach me at night at just turned 2!

For this reason, I'd just like to mention our solution. Instead of buying a cosleeper crib for 0-6 months, we drilled another set of holes in the cotbed so that the mattress height was flush with our bed. Then we ordered some nursery grade foam to fill the gap between the cotbed mattress and the remaining cotbed side (£8 including delivery). It meant there was no hurry to get the kids sleeping on their own (especially as my eldest was absolutely ENORMOUS and wouldn't have got more than 3 months out of a next2me), but it was also a much cheaper solution than a co-sleeper crib.

Obviously, you'd need to make sure the bed and cotbed cannot pull apart (we use zip ties) and make sure you're following safe co-sleeping guidelines.

MummatoaMunchkin · 12/05/2019 20:51

I really really recommend the me to you, it was a life saver for us when when first bought ds home. It was one of the best things we brought new (we got a lot second hand)

I loved having the side down and watching him or just holding his hand. As soon as he started moving i had to put it up but it has a see through side so you can still see him.

Also it has different levels if you need to rise it for whatever reason.

didireallysaythat · 12/05/2019 20:53

Alternatively can you put your mattress on the floor and the Moses basket mattress next to it?

redbedheadd · 12/05/2019 21:00

My DS settles well in my next to me... I always see excellent condition second hand ones on DB groups so you wouldn't need to spend a fortune. I also do a lot of cuddles to sleep then attempt to put him down like a stealth ninja

SweepTheHalls · 12/05/2019 21:01

Co sleeping crib saved my sanity!

Sexnotgender · 12/05/2019 21:02

I’ve got a next to me and I love it. DS is 14 weeks and sleeps really well in it.

DulcieRay · 12/05/2019 21:05

Yes to side sleeper, yes to swaddle.

Is baby BF or FF? Either way could a dummy help if feeding is established? I found it helps settle them.

Pippinsqueak · 12/05/2019 21:11

My experience was that my baby hated the next to me crib as it was so open and empty.

After three weeks of no sleep I ended up putting her in the bassinet if the pram and sleeping downstairs with her. She also hated being put down at that age so mainly slept on me whilst I slept sitting upon the sofa or in bed ( please no judgement I had to sleep some how and I made sure everything was as safe as can be)

Once she was used to the bassinet we carried it up stairs and put it in the next to me crib and it took a few weeks but I then transition led her into the crib. She hated swaddling so that wasn't an option. She now sleeps in the next to me crib nicely.

Mrscog · 12/05/2019 21:22

Doesn’t have to be a next to me - we got a walldin co sleeper from amazon for only £60. But yes a coalescing cot is an essential as far as I’m concerned!

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