Hey mums need advice:)

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Hey guys! I’ve been getting pretty annoyed lately, my baby is 5 weeks old tomorrow. Me and her dad are still together so we’ve came to an arrangement to stay over at his mums one weekend and stay at my mums the next weekend and so on, everytime we seem to be establishing a routine during the week it seems to go down the drain at weekends, I’m completely exhausted being shoved from pillar to post because of other people wanting to have ‘a better relationship with my baby’ but yet they see her every day of the week, I tried to explain to my boyfriend that I think we should just stay at home and let baby get used to her surroundings before taking her away at weekends but ofcourse everyone jumps on the bandwagon and gets offended which is also pissing me off because it’s my baby not theirs, could this be the reason my baby is so unsettled all the time?

No wonder you are fed up , and baby unsettled ! There is NO need for you to stay over at people's houses every weekend - stop doing it immediately . Especially since you also say but yet they see her every day of the week so I assume that you mean they both visit you a lot as well.

As a parent we sometimes have to be ":the bad guy" and say a big NO to excessive demands from inlaws. You need to stand up to your boyfriend and say that you and your baby need a break from all this visiting. This is the firist day of the rest of your life - say no and move on .

I'm confused. Why are you staying over at your parents' houses at weekends EVERY weekend? Especially if they live close enough to see the baby every day?

God you must be exhausted just five weeks out from giving birth

Five week olds are usually quite unsettled by nature but I don't think all the toing and froing is likely to help, or a stressed out mum.

That must be tiring for you, as when you have a baby going out is like preparing for a military expedition. Say you need some time to settle at home for a bit, it's not fair on you or you baby to cause such upheaval on a frequent basis.

Congratulations on your new baby OP! I have a little girl the same age, and while we haven't really managed to establish a routine yet either (they're still so tiny!) I definitely couldn't be doing with all the back and forth. You need to look after yourself, relax when you can, and bond with your new daughter. None of that is going to be easy if you're spending time stressing about visits and being a guest in someone else's house 2 nights a week. Tell them you need to spend time at home as a new family, and limit family visits. I hope they understand you need this as a new mum, but if they don't, that's their issue. Look after yourself!

Why are you always at your parents houses? Are you 15?

congratulations.
i would stay at home.
it is tiring for all of you, and unnecessary.

Just say no.

What? Just stay home. They can come visit you. You need time to recover and bond, baby needs a nice homely environment. All these entitled relatives give me the rage. Just say no and enjoy your baby.