Am I being unreasonable?

[Ronnie1997]

Ok so long story. My son is a year and a half now and tonight while my mum was watching my son, my partner and I had a few of his friends over and they brought alcohol of their own accord and have been loud for hours, not listened to my requests for them to quieten down and been completely disrespectful in my opinion. We haven't been in this flat for very long and they don't understand why I'm worried about bothering my neighbours. They don't understand the possibility of jeapordizing my child. If I get a noise complaint, it doesn't just affect me, it affects my little family that I worked so hard to make strong and healthy. I feel like I should step up and confront them about it. Am I wrong?

Why don’t you anonymously make a complaint to police or HA or council about noise or fess up you are half of the organisers and can’t get people to leave and can they help you?

Yes you need to tell them to be quiet and leave, you haven’t been here long so calls for noise disturbance will be a likely thing. If they know you have a child they may also call social services

How are they 'jeopardising' your child?

Sorry I don’t understand why they’d be jeopodising your child by complaining about noise? Just tell them it’s time to leave now. Your partner needs to step up if they are his Friends - it’s wrong they are being disrespectful to you.
Pop round to your neighbours tomorrow and apologise to them and tell them it won’t happen again (guessing they won’t be invited back).

Why didn't you just tell them to leave? The party's over.

Tell them to leave. Don't invite them back.

How are they jeopardising your child? Are they just noisy, or are they noisy and threatening?

Sorry I did not make myself clear enough. What I mean by jeapordizing my child is that not only are they being noisy but two particular friends seem to be being aggressive towards each other and it's easy to say just ask them to leave but I've told my partner how I feel about it and that I'm bothered and he is begging me not to say anything as he doesn't want to make his friends feel uncomfortable and I'm just generally pissed off with the whole thing

Are you not able to put your hands on your hips and scream like a harpy? “Oi! You lot! Out!!!”

I still don't understand what the risk is to your child. I thought the child was at your mums?

So is your partner going to get up with the baby? If not they need to either go, or shut the fuck up.

One of you needs to find your voice and throw them out.

If you're genuinely with good reason scared contact wardens or police to get rid!

And don't invite them again.

When your partner is sober tomorrow tell him they're not welcome again due to tonight's behaviour. That's completely unacceptable

“I’m wiped. Time to wrap this up.”

Isn’t the baby at your Mum’s? Unless I’m missing something I still don’t understand how he was jeopardised or even has anything to do with the situation
But your DP sounds really disrespectful. He needs to stand up to his friends and tell them it’s time to go home. If he won’t then I would. A serious chat is warranted once he’s sobered up tomorrow and I’d make it clear these friends are not welcome in the house ever again.