My marriage broke down 3.5 years ago and my ex husbands response has been extremely difficult. He refused to communicate over the kids, to participate in school stuff, and refuses to do the parts of parenting that he doesn’t enjoy even though he has the kids 6/14 days per fortnight. We have been to court over minor issues and I was awarded custody while he has visitation but he promised in court that he would improve communication so he kept his 6 nights.
My current issue is that my kids are returning dirty, with tatty hair, too small clothes and with insect bites which are causing huge itchy rashes. My daughter is also very over weight despite a very healthy diet at my house. He refuses to accept that the problem is from his house, but the rashes heal during my time and then re-occur at his house. He doesn’t have pets but I do, but my cats have been checked by the vet and the problem never starts in my home.
I’ve tried asking all 4 grandparents for help but he says I made it up, so I took pictures and went to a dr. The dr suggested stopping contact but he would never agree to that and this would distress my kids. She said it’s bites so she can’t treat it and the cause needs to be found.
Now they are saying that I am damaging my daughter by taking photos and recording her weight, but this is what a dr suggested.
No matter what I do, I’m always the bad guy, when I have no animosity towards my ex husband, I just want what’s best for my kids.
What would you all do?