AIBU told my child has a ‘F off’ face

[Theboythatmademe]

We recently went to a party which due to the cold weather we thought would be inside but instead we were out in the garden and garage. My son who is 6 months old takes a while to warm up to places and people but once he does he’s a happy, smiley baby. Anyway within ten minutes of arriving at the party an acquaintance’s wife (they don’t have children) said to us ‘look at his face, it’s got fuck off written all over it. That’s what he’d be saying if he could talk’ I was a bit taken a back and explained it can take him a while to warm up. A few people came over to say hi and the friends wife kept butting in and saying ‘it takes him a while to warm up apparently’. We then moved away to say hi to the friend who’s birthday it was who also said my son looked ‘unimpressed’. After a couple of hours we decided to leave due to the cold. We said our goodbyes and again said happy birthday to the host (who had been drinking) he then lent in the pram and told my baby with a smile on his face to ‘fuck off’. I was completely stunned and everything happened so quickly I was questioning if I had misheard it, I didn’t say anything and we left. I am so angry with myself that I didn’t speak up and defend my son and I am kicking myself that I allowed this to happen for the sake of being polite and not making a scene. Should I bring it up and confront them? How do you think I should now proceed? I’m quite happy to never socialise with them again. Thanks so much for taking the time to read.

Initially I would've thought the first comment was just a funny joke. My boy used to have the look about him as a baby and we all found it funny.

But the continuous digs about it and then the "fuck off" at the end is just awful.

Personally I wouldn't confront, they'll just have you and your DS down as moody arses. I'd just cut them off and not bother with them any more.

In our wee group of new mums there is one LO in particular who has what can only be described as resting bitch face (sounds similar to f*ck off face). He's not unhappy, he's just taking it all in. I know many adults who have resting bitch face! You can joke about it with people you know well but what that group said about and to your wee boy is unacceptable. I wouldn't do anything now, live and learn and don't stand for that kind of chat if you feel uncomfortable. It won't be long until he understands and starts repeating what is said.

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply it has helped. Yes you are both right I won’t say anything now as you’re right it will come across badly. I think the best thing would be to not socialise with them in future. Thanks again x

I am absolutely horrified!! I woild have been so upset. You are NOT being unreasonbale!! The first bit was bad enough but borderline. Nobody wants to hear that people think their baby has an equivalent to a resting bitch face etc. It's rude to say so but I think for people who don't have kids it can be accidental thoughtlessness. My husband one told.my friend that her newborn baby looked like Mini me in Austin Powers 🙄 But to refer to that comment again is really mean. And the f off at the end? Absolutely horrifying!!!!!!! I am sorry you had to experience that but cut then out or your life.