My ex

[50plusmum]

My brother is divorced and awaiting sorting the marital home and finances. He sees his children every other weekend but as he cannot accommodate as he doesn't yet own or able to afford his own place whilst the ex remains under the family roof . he collects them and spends the sat and Sunday all day with them. He does however offer to stay over night at his marital home so the ex gets a break as long as she stays out over night this is to avoid any arguments on her return and give the kids quality time.as he is still part owns the marital home he has legal rights to stay. His ex wife demands pick up time and drop off time and if she isn't wanting or able to stay out overnight dictates what time she will return and expect him to babysit until she roles in after a night out. This he won't do as he lives 65 miles away and is then expected to return again Sunday morning to collect again for the day. As no legal arrangements have been made yet and taking into account he only has a bedsit rental and can't accommodate is his ex being unreasonable ?

He isn't babysitting. He's spending time with his own children.
Why does he live 65 miles away? He's the one who's moved away that distance as his ex is still in the family home. She's not being unreasonable to expect the father of her children to spend time with them every other weekend. 65 miles is about an hour driving, it's not unreasonable to expect a father who loves his children and wants to see them, make the effort to drive a few hours to them every other weekend. If he doesn't like this situation then he needs to sort out some more suitable living accommodation.
Is this your ex or your brothers ex? Your title is misleading.

My brother has no issues spending time with his children and is waiting for the marital home plus finances to be sorted so hopefully he can buy his own home. In the meantime he can’t accommodate and rents a room near his work due to limited costs . However he is divorced and the ex to date has been non complying sorting out the finances to enable this to happen and both move forward . My brother gives the option to stay over night as long as his ex doesn’t return home after her night out as she can become argumentative this also applies to looking after his children should she go out and then returns after her night out as she will have had a drink and in past starts on him.

Surely time wise his life is easier now that he lives nearly an hour closer to work and he is only responsible for his children 2 days out of 14 compared to the 12 days out 14 that his ex his responsible for the children.