Getting rid of the dummy!

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DS is 2 years 8 months. I've been reading lots of older threads on here and I'm still unsure what to do.

DS has had dummy since few days old as he started sucking his thumb. When I fell pregnant, he became REALLY attached to it. Baby is 4 weeks old now, and it hasn't improved.

He knows dummy stays in the car when we go out, but he is so attached that no matter where he is, he asks to go home constantly, because he knows his dummy is in the car. We can't enjoy any days out or activities because he asks to leave.

At home we've been a bit more lenient with it, we try and encourage him to take it out but with the new baby (and with me and baby being in hospital 3 weeks of the babies 4 weeks of age), we've not pushed him, as we know he'll need that extra bit of comfort.

As you'd expect, everyone comments to
Him about how he's a big boy and doesn't need it, and that dummies are for babies, they're going to give it to the fairies or put it in the bin and so forth...

We do want to get rid of the dummy but what's the best way?

Do we say it's just for bedtime now? And if so, how do I encourage him to give it up in the morning and not insist on it in the car or when tired?

Or do we go cold turkey and get rid fully?

Either way, how do I explain that he can't have his dummy constantly or at all, but his brother can

I'm cautious of creating resentment / unsettling him with so much change already happening

Would he understand a dummy fairy?

As in, he's a big boy now and he has to leave all his dummies for the fairy to collect and he gets a big reward. Just to make him sure that he knows he won't be getting them back.

Push the big boy idea!

Dummy fairy csme to our house too😂
We were in tesco and he spotted a george pig teddy that he wanted. I told him he could have it but he had to leave his dummy for the fairy cos he was a big boy now.
No dummy after it was taken away, occasionally asked for it for few days then was forgotten about. He would have been around same age as your little one.

Just chuck them and be done. He'll be grumpy for a few days but will soon forget about it.

Dummy fairy came through a window mummy left open one night (silly mummy). It was all for a good cause though as the dummy fairy collects dummies so they can go to all the new babies. Totally fell for it and never mentioned dummies again until a couple of years later I put on a jacket I hadn't worn for ages and I pulled out a dummy from my pocket. I showed it to DS and he said "oh, the fairy must have missed one".

He'd had a dummy from 2 weeks old as I breastfed and just felt like a walking dummy myself so was desperate for relief. Fairy visited about the same age as your DS. I was amazed how easy it was considering how attached he was to them.

My DS will be 3 this month and loves his dummy, since the beginning of the year he only gets his dummy when he goes to bed.

He now gives me his dummy in the morning after he gets up. He doesn't ask for it during the day at all anymore. It's made bedtime an absolute dream too as he goes with no fuss and goes to sleep himself.

Next stage is to get it away completely but I'm not worried about when tbh