Have a 3 week old and boyfriend yelling at me to clean house ??

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Our baby is 3 weeks old. I had a really complicated and bad delivery.. 30 hours of labor, tons of things happened during it blah blah, I had a second degree tear and got chorioamniotis during labor & I have ptsd from the whole experience bc I was neglected during delivery & my baby & I were at risk for sepsis/other Things since I got that infection, so I have ptsd and am constantly scared, and my recovery physically has been insanely hard, I’ve had like crazy amounts of bleeding and pain from the stitches, during labor I lost tons of blood I almsot needed a transfusion, so iv jusr needed a lot of time to recover.

My bf has been good and let me rest for once (probably from encouragement from the nurses tha the needs to do a lot more) but recently, I started doing a little more bc ive been bleeding s little less and feeling a little better . Finally
Felt okay to drive down the st and do more around the house.

This morning I was waiting for the baby To sleep so I could shower and run to dunks while he was still here before he left for work for the day for like 12 hours.
Then he was touching me and wanted to take my pants off so he be aroused and I’d give him a bj or soembjnf, but I didn’t wanna take my pants off bc I wear granny panties and pads , bleed, and my stitches aren’t healed. He kept trying and was cuddling me from behind & kept lkke pressinf up on me in a way that’s not
Comfortable. I started getting annoyed and asked him to stop and he was really upset. He knows I’m wearing pads & need at least 6 weeks to heal. Then he left the house with a huge attitude, and wouldn’t even say bye to the baby I had to b like say bye to her.

Then he texted me to clean the house. I don’t even get to take a shower everyday, and I barely get to eat/hydrate myself, I’m exclusively breastfeeding so that stuff is important and I jusr find it wicked rude that because I’ve slwoly started doing things he thinks
It’s ok to telme to clean. It’s been 3 weeks. He goes to sleep before me
And wakes up after me. Hold her for 20 min top a day and changes maybe 1-3 diapers out of the 10 or more she goes through a day. I’m rally insulted. Our house is a mess but I don’t even have time to take care of myself let alone clean the place spotless . But he has time to play video games for hours almsor everydy. I don’t know what to do .

You need to speak to someone who can help get you out of there.

And absolutely do not register the child with his name, do not put him on the birth certificate.

God he's revolting. Please get rid, it'll only get worse.

Give baby your surname and don't put him on birth certificate.

OP you have posted numerous times about your boyfriend and his behaviour and have been told multiple times to leave.

What do you need out of these threads you keep starting? Do you need everyone to just nod and agree and post what a bastard he is? Or do you need practical advice on how to go about leaving?

I know it’s hard and it’s not easy to “just leave”; but are you looking at steps? Maybe when you’re past the baby fog. Look at the women’s aid websites, reach out to friends and family. It may seem like an impossible task now, but your life will be so much better alone with your baby - this man literally adds nothing to your life and you will be so much freer without him.

Get rid. He's an abusive twat

He sounds like a bloody idiot! Selfish, self centred and personally I think he's trying to punish you for not 'servicing him'

He needs to shape the fuck up and be a father and supportive partner to a new mum

Honestly I'd wipe the floor with him with that type of behaviour!! Stupid fuckwit

Omg just dump him, he sounds like a child

This is one of the worst relationships I have read op it is bad you need to get out for your daughters sake

I am guessing from the spelling of labor and dunks that you are in the US so I am not sure what aftercare you have there. In the UK we have a health visitor who is available for information or a home visit.

Do you have any family you can turn to or friends?

His behaviour is not normal, it is cruel and degrading. He should be making you breakfast and looking after his own child whilst you shower.

He needs someone, either professional or a family member to tell him that your body needs time to recover. He is being a dick. You are not there to service his needs, he has a hand, he can service himself.

OP do you have anyone in RL that can help you leave?

I haven't read any of your other posts but from this alone it's obvious he doesn't respect you.
I bottle fed, had a straightforward labour and a supportive husband, but I still hardly found a moment to eat/shower/sleep in the first couple of months

Omg he sounds absolutely vile! Seriously OP you are still healing and he should be treating you like a queen after what you've been through. A decent man would be bringing you tea and toast in bed while you breastfeed,then caring for his baby while you shower,doing the bulk of the housework (yes even after a 12hr shift) while you're healing and nurturing your baby. He should definitely not be demanding sex and getting angry when refused EVER! Please don't accept this abusive behaviour OP, you and child deserve better than this

He sounds utterly thoughtless, selfish and disrespectful. If you’re staying with him for the baby’s sake, don’t bother. Do what you need to do to end this “relationship” - tell family/friends what’s been happening and I’m sure you’ll have lots of offers of help.

I don’t know what to do .

The easy answer to this is get rid of him. He is no asset whatsoever, just a complete prick. You will be well rid.