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Daphnesmate · 01/05/2019 09:43

Toddlers are sweet and funny and entertaining but when you are their sole carer throughout the day it can feel a bit ongoing, can't it?

My dc puts everything in her mouth, explores and touches everything, all very normal, I accept that but the constant watching is draining, the lack of space i.e. you can't leave them whilst they are awake I find very demanding. I have two older children and went on to have a third so in many ways I feel like I have gone back again. Yes, I decided to have a third child but right now it feels very overwhelming and I whilst I do enjoy parts of it, I can't help but wish time away.

I go out to toddler groups a couple of times a week, this breaks things up a bit but I haven't actually got any friends with toddlers, so there is no mutual conversations to be had about life with toddlers. This is very different to when I had my first dc and seemed to know several other mums with toddlers and managed to make a few friends; it is just the way things have turned out. We have no extended family and my dh works full time. It is how it is, I am lucky to have her and I feel guilty for moaning about how it affects me, I suppose you can have too much of a good thing though, can't you and much of daily life can feel all consuming and a bit mundane. Does anyone else feel like having a good moan, is anyone else not enjoying the toddler era?

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SalemSpellman · 01/05/2019 09:56

My DD is coming into the toddler age. I'm finding this age the most interesting and fun age so far, however it's the most exhausting. You honestly need eyes in the back of your head. I feel like I'm not first in my own life anymore as she requires constant supervision.

Over all I'm enjoying watching DD develop as a small person but I laughter at myself 1 year ago when I was complaining how it was to have a 6 month old. At least if I put her down then I knew where she was. I put her down now and turn my back to make a drink she is busy making friends tormenting the cat, or hiding the tv remote etc.

Daphnesmate · 01/05/2019 10:26

Hi Salem, yes, I really enjoyed the baby stage but you're right dd is becoming more interesting, its not just me who feels exhausted then!
With two older children, I think I am getting drained from the constant giving all the time and crave a bit more time to recharge. I do get a little bit of me time when baby naps and when dh returns home from work but it is nothing like my friends with older children who have all the school hours to themselves, although I appreciate some of them work.

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chipsnmayo · 01/05/2019 11:01

My DD did not even walk until she was 19 months (bloody bum shuffler!) so when she finally started walking it was a bit of a shock to the system. The irony is that I was concerned with development delays and then I hated having to watch her 24/7

I'll have a moan from 20 years ago op Grin She once broke the door on the tv stand, ate leaves off a tree and dog food, she also tripped and fell down a couple of stairs, Blush oh yes and she tormented the dog too. I was probably a bit too lax (and in my defence I was a single mum) but she is 21 and survived.

I will be honest I was quite glad to see the end of the toddler years!

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Drogosnextwife · 01/05/2019 12:29

I much prefer the toddler stage to the baby stage. I find looking after babies who can't move quite hard.

Chippychipsforme · 01/05/2019 12:52

Early toddler stage here and it's bloody hard - he's still a baby in some ways but definitely a toddler in others. I can't leave him for a minute because he'll either scream the house down (separation anxiety) or pull the TV on top of him. He has so much energy. He started rolling at 4 months and hasn't stopped moving since!

ThisIsTheEndgame · 01/05/2019 12:57

I have 2DC and I found 18 to 24 months by far the most trying age. DS slightly less so than DD as he was still napping and was a teeny bit less unreasonable but omg the climbing, pulling, chewing, temper tantrums, refusal to dress/eat/have nappy changed/get in car seat etc etc etc... knackering. Once mine hit 2 they were both a little less manic and a smidge more reasonable.

IntoValhalla · 01/05/2019 13:01

There’s 17 months between my eldest two (I’m expecting DC3 later this year), so I had 2 toddlers at once.
The eldest has just turned 4, so is coming out of “toddlerhood” now, but DC2 is 2 and a half and completely fucking feral BlushGrin In some ways I love that about him - not a care in the world, he has no fear and is constantly exploring something. On the other hand, his wildness makes life very difficult sometimes Confused
I’m all for doing the newborn stage again with DC3, but if he/she is anything like their brother, I’m in for another crazy ride through toddlerhood Blush

Nameusernameuser · 01/05/2019 14:24

My toddler is a climber. He will climb on anything he can, he pulled a box to the unit with the fish tank on, and put a hot cross bun in there.
He empties every cupboard and draw. He's just started tantruming too, which is lovely. In every other way he's fantastic, really placid and happy and plays by himself happily. I don't actually have to do much, he sleeps 12 hours at night and 2-3 hours in the day but I'm still absolutely knackered. I actually look forward to going to work Grin

IntoValhalla · 01/05/2019 14:35

Nameuser that sounds like something my DS would do....except he doesn’t sleep Confused

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