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I just want DS to be happy again

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strangeloop · 30/04/2019 11:00

DS has had a rough time. He was at a lovely school where he was very happy, but is so severely dyslexic we had to move city (leaving close friends) to put him in a specialist school, where he couldn't seem to settle in and find friends (despite always having had a great social life). A year on, we moved to another city, nearer our home city (where there is no specialist school). We're only half a term in but he hates it and is very upset in the mornings. He hasn't made friends (although the other children apparently like him and include him). His whole demeanour seems to have changed. I take him back to see old friends often and then he seems almost like his old self.

It just really weighs heavy on me. The new school is very good, pretty much the best possible, and in that regard I know he is in the right place and that in time he will find friends.

He is very angry with me (not DH of course) and if he's being difficult he will say it's because I made him move and change schools. I realise we made an error with the first school, but seeing as he'll need at least three years specialist education, we thought it was right to make the change, particularly as he always said he hated it (history now rewritten of course).

The school say he sometimes seems quiet but does not strike them as unhappy.

I just wondered if anyone had any experience of this.

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octonoughtcake3 · 30/04/2019 14:43

Why did you make the move away from the specialised school that he needed?

BentBaastard · 30/04/2019 14:46

It sounds like he’s not dealt with the disruption of changing schools 3 times.

It must be very difficult for him.
My boys would have hated to move schools at all so I can appreciate how he feels.

Why did you do the most recent move?

strangeloop · 30/04/2019 16:20

Thanks for your posts.

Octonought, we moved him from one specialist dyslexia school to another. There were several issues, one was that there were so few pupils that there was not really potential for him to make friends, another was that they were admitting kids who had more complex needs and behavioural difficulties. He constantly complained that he hated it so we decided to take a look at this new school, which was much bigger and with better facilities. They put him up to Y5 (his birthday is the beginning of September and he's mature for his age, so these were always the kids he gravitated towards). There are many potential friends in his new group but he seems to not want to let them in.

There were other things too, that influenced our decisions. It's hard to believe it's little more than a year since we first found how how severely dyslexic he is and it's like it's been a rollercoaster for him since then.

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octonoughtcake3 · 30/04/2019 16:40

It sounds like you made the right decision but it must be hard for him.

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