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My 10 mo has spent most of last night, today, and so far tonight screaming

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MeadowHay · 28/04/2019 21:38

We think it is teething related because she keeps chewing her dummy and refusing it, and chewing her hands, and drooling. Last night Nurofen seemed to help but nothing else and so far tonight that doesn't seem to have made any difference either. What are we meant to do? Just hold her til she exhausts herself from screaming? That's basically what we keep having to do as nothing seems to be helping her, she's totally hysterical on and off.

I am really struggling with this mentally because she was like this most of the time between the ages of 2 weeks and 7 months. I am back at work now and whilst will struggle with the lack of sleep tomorrow assuming tonight is as bad or worse as last night, I am having flashbacks to the many days of my maternity leave spent pacing up and down my living room with a baby screaming over my shoulder for upwards of 2 hours at a time for no discernible reason, napping for 30 minutes, and then waking up and continuing, for days and days in a row. I feel like we have all just regressed back to that even though she'd been doing so much better over the last 3 months. I think it is teething now, but then we thought it was teething sometimes then and she only got her first two teeth coming through over the last few weeks, so it probably wasn't teething when she was like 3 months old. She has a paeds referral as the GP is a bit concerned, she was referred at 7 months old but the waiting list is so long that she will be about to turn 1 by the time of the appointment. I optimistically thought maybe she'd have grown out of this behaviour by then but nope Sad.

What do other people do with unconsolable babies? I know some other people who talk about their babies being like this as newborns but not still being like this at 10 months Sad.

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Miljah · 28/04/2019 23:02

Oh, OP. I feel your pain.

My DS1 basically screamed his head off for a good 12 months with no discernible reason. Night after night. Pretty much day after day.

His longest nap was 22 minutes. Night feeds were him howling, me feeding 45 mins, him then howling again as DH and I tag teamed walking him up and down the hall for a good hour, 90 mins; he'd then collapse in exhaustion, then he'd sleep maybe 2 hours aaaaand repeat. Night after night after night.

So, during the day- I might make a baby group, but as soon as he started crying, I'd leave, then spend an aimless hour or 2 driving around as he finally slept in his car seat. The only guaranteed silence I'd get.

To this day I have no idea why the first year of my eldest's life was, frankly, the worst of ours. All eventually passed.

Just dropped him, 19, back to uni, a fantastic young man.

We searched and searched for answers, but didn't find them. Stuff just went away, eventually, of its own, inexplicable accord.

misstiggiwinkle · 28/04/2019 23:08

Sounds just like my daughter. Silent reflux. Only thing that has worked is ranitidine at a higher than usual dose. She's about to turn two and still needs it. If she doesn't have it she screams all night and never sleeps. With it she sleeps through the night.

If it's teething then nurofen works better than calpol and don't forget you can give both.

Give yourself a list to go down and cancel out -
Temp
Trapped wind
Hair round a finger
Teething powders/ambesol
Pain relief
Hunger

If none of these solve it then really consider reflux

shallichangemyname · 28/04/2019 23:40

You mentioned nappy rash. I seem to remember bad nappy rash goes hand in hand with teething.
It's so awful not knowing what's wrong. Thank god you have a DH who tag teams with you as an equal, so many don't.

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MeadowHay · 29/04/2019 07:23

So the night went as follows in the end:
Screaming and trying to sleep on and off from 8.10 til finally put to bed asleep just before 9pm.
Woke up screaming at 9.30pm, had Calpol, finally asleep in bed by 10.15pm - DH put her in bed with him and held her till she took her dummy and fell asleep from exhaustion and then moved her to bed.
Woke up 11pm screaming and was back asleep by about 11.30pm by rocking/patting her in her cot bed once she'd took her dummy again.
Woke up 1am screaming her worst yet. We called 111 in the end as she couldn't have any more medication at this point so we had no idea what to do or why she was so bad. Spoke to a nurse and they made an appt to go to the walk in at 3am but she eventually fell asleep in bed with me around 2.30am so we cancelled it. We gave her Nurofen around 2am.
Woke up screaming at 5.30am, asleep by 6am after patting/rocking in her cot bed.
Woke up screaming at 6.55am - not for the day as she usually doesn't get up on weekdays til we wake her at about 7.30am, she was doing her nightime cry but we have had to leave her pretty much til now as we get ready for work.

She's due in nursery soon. I feel so sad for her.

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3luckystars · 29/04/2019 09:31

Silent reflux.

Roaring until hoarse is making me think this 100%.

NigesFakeWalkingStick · 29/04/2019 10:24

Presumably you're not sending her into nursery?

She really needs to be checked out today. Teething can coincide with ear infections, and a sure sign my son was ill around that age was when he found it hard to suck a dummy/eat. He got hand foot and mouth around the 1 year mark and couldn't understanding why he kept waking and wouldn't take his dummy, but he had a fever and we could eventually see he had ulcers all in his mouth and couldn't suck bottles or dummies because his mouth was so painful.

If Calpol and Nurofen aren't helping, it means it's something that really needs to be checked out. Does she have a temp?

MeadowHay · 29/04/2019 13:55

Oh poor thing Nigel! DD is taking her dummy eventually just not for ages. And is drinking fine from bottle just a little less than usual. She wasnt toooo bad in the daytime yesterday and seemed relatively ok this morning (I mean she looked exhausted tho obviously) so yes she went to nursery. No temp at all. Gave her Calpol before she went in. She was happy when she saw her keyworker there. I did brief them fully and obviously they would call me if they had any concerns about her and they haven't rang me so she must be doing ok. DM is around you see so can always collect her in an emergency so I feel better taking her to nursery if unsure as I know if she's not well DM can get her straight away. DF is also a dr and reckons it's just teething but he did say he wanted me to take her to the GP tomorrow anyway as her chest is still crackly from a chest infection she had weeks and weeks ago, so I have her booked in for tomorrow and will mention this screaming bout too.

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MotherOfGodFella · 30/04/2019 21:18

How did you get on at the GP?

MeadowHay · 01/05/2019 21:46

Aw, thanks for asking. Said nappy rash looks how she'd expect it to look and on the mend - which is true as today it's suddenly even miles better than yesterday, so that's good, and to continue with the two prescribed creams + metanium + Sudocrem and continue with the cotton and water for cleaning her. Said her chest sounded clear. She developed a very hoarse croaky voice after this thread and on Tuesday hardly ate or drank anything all day so I assumed very sore throat which GP confirmed, said it was pretty red. Prescribed a throat spray for her. But basically said it's a virus and nowt much anyone can do. Can't do nothing about speeding up paeds referral.

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