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Advice regarding baby who is terrified of other babies making noise

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Rosebud1302 · 27/04/2019 22:31

My little boy (8.5 months) has always been a shy baby and quite reserved with people he doesn't know. Which is obviously I'm assuming fairly common. No problem with that at all. However, in the last month and a half or so I have noticed him becoming increasingly sensitive and stressed out by other babies making any form of noise. Whether this be excited squealing, louder babbling or crying. He is ok if it is quiet but it seems to be a certain pitch that really bothers him. He will cry real full on tears every single time and will continue to cry each time it happens. It really does upset him and has led to me leaving any social gatherings a fair number of times. I have never met or heard of any other baby with this sensitivity although I'm sure there must be others. Does anyone have experience of this? Is there anything I can do to help him get through it and is it likely to be a phase? It never used to bother him or at least not to this extent.

At the moment I am of course comforting when he cries but explaining to him "oh look little Tommy is sad because xxxx". I know he can't understand obviously but in my mind it might help reassure him. And praising him lots if he doesn't cry. Any other advice appreciated. First and foremost I hate seeing him get so upset but it is also making seeing friends very difficult. Especially in places like cafes where there tend to be other babies as well as our group.

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AllesAusLiebe · 28/04/2019 01:24

No advice but following this thread also because I have an equally sensitive DS (7 months)!

DH recently decided that he was going to ‘remedy’ the problem by making a point of taking him to places on a weekend where there are lots of kids making noise. He failed miserably in this mission and I’ve stepped in and said that I don’t want DS exposed to anymore unnecessary stress. Sad

How is he with loud noise in general?

I’m completely ok with him being a little sensitive guy but I also have had to leave groups before because he’s become absolutely inconsolable when another baby has made noise and I’m concerned about how this may affect him in the future.

GoBrookeYourself · 28/04/2019 01:42

My DS, now about to turn 2, was exactly the same at that age. Everything scared him, he was so shy and hated noise; stuck to me like glue and wouldn’t explore unless I was right by his side. In time he’s got better, taking him to some baby classes regularly and probably just as part of normal development have helped but he’s still quite shy until he feels comfortable around someone and I’ve just come to see it as part of his personality; DH and I aren’t the most outgoing people in the world so it makes sense if he’s quite quiet too.

Don’t worry about it OP, but I don’t agree with your DH trying to ‘fix’ it. It’s nothing that time won’t improve on as he’s more frequently in social situations, but if he prefers quiet generally even as he’s older, then that’s okay too. The world would be boring if we were all the same!

GoBrookeYourself · 28/04/2019 01:43

Oh sorry, I misread, it wasn’t your DH putting your DS into noisy situations unnecessarily. Apologies for misunderstanding!

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Preggosaurus9 · 28/04/2019 01:51

He will grow out of it. In the meantime you are doing everything right. Don't make a big deal out of it, if you're calm and offer comfort he will pick up on that and be more likely to stay calm himself over time.

Rosebud1302 · 28/04/2019 08:49

Thanks guys. Yes I'm not surprised he is reserved as both me and OH were as babies and still can be! I have no problem with him being a shy mummy's boy. In fact I love the cuddles :) I just hate seeing him get so upset. Hopefully with time he will realise the world isn't such a scary place! @AllesAusLiebe yes I'm not sure forcing him into situations is very sensible of your OH only because I know if I did that my boy would definitely get worse and less likely to trust me. Hopefully both our babies will feel better over time :)

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