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All I do is moan

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User765347564765 · 24/04/2019 18:48

I'm tired and probably hugely peri-menopausal, I have also just started some low level antidepressants because even I have became sick of hearing myself moan all the time.

I moan about how tired I am. I moan about how much hard work my 3 dcs are (youngest is a toddler, ds2 has challenging behaviour and takes a lot of parenting). I moan about how much freedom others have in comparison (I have had my children later due to various reasons and a lot of my friends are finding things easier with their older children these days). In a nutshell, I am finding things quite hard but managing to juggle everything including scraping a bit of time for me (and neglecting various bits of non-essential housework).

I love my dcs and there are bits that I do enjoy...I've had a lovely time with my toddler today but now I am left feeling very tired (I am also very hormonal). It isn't all bad but I just seem to have climbed aboard a moaning waggon and I am still on it. I'm returning to see my GP shortly about the anti-depressants and various other minor health niggles. There isn't anyone in real life I can moan to, to get all of these moans out other than my poor dh (who is also tired etc.). No extended family and I daren't moan continually to my few good friends, who don't seem to moan as much as me. I could probably do with either counselling (but cannot really afford) or a moaning buddy who would put up with a good share of moaning. Irritable is probably the best way to describe my general mood, though I do try to make an effort when in company (I am a sahm). Anyone else, found themselves in a negative loop recently? I think it is something to do with having a very young child plus two others to constantly be responsible for and feeling tired/hormonal often I never used to moan so much!

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Ikabod · 24/04/2019 21:27

You have my sympathy Thanks

Re. Counselling - your GP may be able to recommend a local charity. Mine did and I had 1session a week from a professional counsellor for £5 a session.

Could you also start keeping a gratitude journal? Just writing a little bit every day about something that was good or went well?

User765347564765 · 24/04/2019 22:20

Thanks Ikabod. I did write about things I liked doing and sometimes, I do feel grateful, it's just recently, I think I'm feeling a bit worn out/adjusting to having 3 plus, it does feel a bit relentless sometimes. But I do have plenty in life to feel grateful for, I can't understand why it is that I don't just get on with things without moaning because things could be a lot worse. Thanks for the suggestion, I had forgotten about actually writing things down, I think this could help.

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