Am I wrong to go?

[PhoenixFire7]

Ok so.... I am maid of honour for my friends wedding in Cuba. Originally we were going as a family (Myself, DP and DD - aged 3) and are all booked up for 2 weeks. My partner has read a few things online and has decided that he doesn’t want our DD going there and wants to stay home with her. He has told me that he wants me to still go as I am maid of honour and that he’d really love the 2 weeks alone with DD anyway.... daddy daughter time!
That was that! I we decided that it’s the best thing for everyone, no one is being let down and they get their time together one on one. He will still keep the time off work and take her away for a week in the UK whilst I’m gone.
The thing is, DD is very much a mummy’s girl and I am going to miss her so much! I know it will do her good to spend the time with her daddy as they don’t get much time alone but am I wrong to still go??

Huge mum guilt here but being MOH for my friend is a huge privilege!

I think it's fine to go! Two weeks away from her is a long time though. I guess as the flights are booked it's too late to cut it down to a week?

It's absolutely fine to go. Have a great time in Cuba. (Can I say how refreshing it is to read about a supportive husband?)

Of course it is fine to go.

If you think you will miss her too much, then surely you could go for a shorter time? But she will be fine. Up to you about how you feel.

I think it’s absolutely fine.

I wonder why he doesn’t want her going to Cuba though?

Also, does it mean you wouldn’t have a holiday as a family?

You are absolutely not wrong to go, also not wrong to worry because it's the first time you'll be away for so long.

Basically, what I'm saying is go, your DD and her dad will have an absolute ball together (another pleased to see the opposite of usual MN DP/DHs). It'll be good for all of you I think!

disclaimer I'd bite DPs hand off if he suggested I take 2 weeks in the Caribbean and he'd keep the kids

Thanks much for your support. I was expecting people to tell me that they couldn’t do it and that I should rethink it!

Changing it to a week was the original plan but unfortunately, the wedding lands at the beginning of the second week so it would mean arriving the day before, jet lagged and completely useless to the nervous bride who needs my help on the run up to the wedding. There are only weekly flights out to that part of Cuba! I have been through so many options and even looked in to paying more for separate flights (they don’t exist anyway).

DP doesn’t really want DD going to Cuba because he has ready about how it is a 3rd world country and that food poisoning has been a problem in the past at the resort we are going to. With it being a 3rd world county it’s worrying with having to go to hospital etc. I see his point and some may see it as an over reaction but I guess he has every right to feel that way with his daughter.

I know I am really lucky to have the opportunity and good god do I need it!! It will be hell leaving her behind and I wish she could be there but as you say, she’ll be here when I get back.

Oh and minipie - he has promised a family holiday next year

I'm glad you feel better OP. I was an absolute wreck when we went away for 4 days without the bairns (first time ever) but they had a blast and I realised it was me who was struggling with the idea, not them.

I hope you have a lovely time, and that your DD and DP have a grand time together too. You can facetime (or whatever it's called) too, so be reassured.

I forgot to add, my mum used to go on holidays when we were wee and my dad made it so much fun!

We took a 2 yr old and an 8 yr old to Cuba, it was fabulous. Family friendly and very beautiful. We went to the beach and Havana and we had no problems at all. The food at times was interesting but it is not third world especially if you are going to an AI resort, which will fine. I would all go and enjoy!

Cuba is well known for having fantastic healthcare but yes also bad food.