Negativity cycle 😫

[foibles2011]

Does anyone else just feel that no matter what they do they’re trapped in a cycle of negativity with their kids

Please don’t get me wrong I love my DD 7 and DS 3 with all my heart but find myself constantly saying “no”, “stop doing that” “please don’t”, dealing with arguments, attitude, rudeness and whining and it’s really getting me down!

I know someone will come along and say pick your battles but I’m not sure what exactly it’s ok to let slide. And yes we are consistent with dealing with bad behaviour (one warning and time out for DS and one warning then bedroom for DD) but it seems to make no difference, well apart from starting off major meltdowns!

We recently sat down with the children and wrote new reward charts and behaviour plans and stuck them on the fridge so that they would be involved - well that lasted 24hrs before we were back to square one!

We always reinforce good behaviour, take them out loads, spend time doing things as a family but it always ends in the same bad behaviour.

I guess I’m just worn down by it

Does anyone have any ideas because this mummy is seriously at the end of her rope and I’m struggling to keep positive!

TIA xxx

I could have written this post a couple of weeks ago , it's so hard to get out of , so I did some online research and read a few articles , one was about saying yes , basically the idea is that you say yes to as much as you can. Obvs not the bad stuff or the can I have a biscuit before tea stuff etc but things you'd normally say no to either say yes or an alternative like not right now but in ten minutes when I'm finished doing this. It's not an automatic answer for me and I've had to really think about it but it's made the holidays so much better , kids are happier and so am I , there has defo been less whinging and I'm less stressed