I love my DS but I struggle with the mundane

[JPSW19]

I absolutely love my son but i have to admit that I have struggled with the Newborn period. My son is approaching 6 months and is starting to settle a bit more, but God, no one told me how boring babies were.

I am sure my GF would like more children but I firmly do not, and all my thoughts of recent weeks have been consumed of when/how I tell her that I don't wish for more children?

There to me sees more reasons to not have more than to have. Should I just come out and say "I am happy with what I have and don't wish for more" I can't see that i am going to feel any different in the months to come.

Is it the mundane that is boring or having a baby. I have a nearly 3 year old and another baby on the way. Toddlers and children are interesting, more interesting the older they get. Oh God babies are boring.

First, you have every right to decide how many children you want. It's your business, no one else's.
Babies are boring, I agree. But they are at least portable. Try and do something that interests you while he's still small and sleeps a lot. I used to walk for miles and miles every day, exploring canals and rivers and parks in London. Kept me fit, kept me out of the house and at least I could watch the world go by.

If he has settled into a pattern of napping, try and use that time to catch up with adult company or brain time in some form, whether it's meeting friends for coffee, reading a book that isn't about parenting babies, or doing an online course for 30 mins a day.

He's also coming up to an age where your interaction with him starts to mean something to him. My DC were early talkers. I probably came over as a horribly pushy parent but I chatted away to them all the time and really listened to their babble because I was so bored and lonely, i was desperate for company and someone to chat with, even a baby! But it was fun when they started talking. I remember mumbling a hsopping list aloud and saying to myself 'I've forgotten something - what was it?' and DS1 said, 'Bwed.' He was right., I'd mentioned bread earlier and forgotten it. It was so funny to realise he was not only listening but could remember what I'd said before. After that we chatted quite a lot.

I think it is the mundane. Feed, nap, change nappy, repeat.
I feel guilty that I have spent too much time wishing it away.
I can't wait to play sports with him/ read/ take him place but at the moment what can you do?

I am pretty sure my GF knows how I feel - I have been pretty consistent.
I think deep inside her she doesn't want more 100 percent but feels society says you shouldn't stick to one. Who knows?

Just say your child is a limited edition! You absolutely do not have to have more than 1.
And yes it can be boring.
Hang in there, they do get much more entertaining

Thank you. He will be an amazing little child. i guess i am just impatient waiting for him to be ready to do all the things that i want to do with him

There's no law you have to decide by xx amount of months. It's a hard stage, they don't really do anything but their not new anymore. I didn't mind the baby stage but I'm loving the early days of having a toddler (knackered though!), everything is interesting and new!

Thank you, there's much to look forward too

meh babies under 1 are boring imo but they develop a personality eventually. DD2 was conceived partly so dd1 wouldn't always need my attention because she had some one to play with (dd2 is 20mo and only just starting to work out so long game here!)

Thank you for your feedback