10m old sleep, controlled crying help.

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Hi all, my 10m old dd2 is a terrible sleeper, just so you know all the info, she's breastfed, refuses a dummy, eats pretty well solid wise and isn't too hot/cold or poorly

We co-slept until a month or so ago but I hate co-sleeping and get very little sleep while doing it. Dh and I gave CC a go.

DD1 is 4 and we did CC with her at 1yo. It worked very quickly a d she slept through at night 4.

Our bedroom is at the total other end of the house, the first few nights I'd put her down, did the proper cc routine and she'd be asleep after 12mins. By night 3 she was asleep by 6mins. When she woke again at say 11, dh would go through and do cc again. He took charge until 3/4am when I'd go through and give her a feed. Stupidly I just got into the double bed next to her bed and fed her to sleep until the morning.

It turns out that after a few nights DH got sick of the whole cc thing and was just sleeping in the bed next to her. I didnt know this until last week. He's now super busy with work and really unable to do nights for the next few weeks. The last 4 nights I've just been co-sleeping again as we were all tired and stressed but tbh I'm getting very little sleep and baby isn't settled either. She tosses and turns constantly and whines and cries even when I'm right there. She was a boob in her mouth but I'm terrified I'll fall asleep and suffocate her.

I need to start the CC again which I want to do but have a question...if she goes to sleep after say 10mins (2 then 4 then 6 then 8 then 10) if she wakes again in say 30mins time do I start the whole thing again from 2mins or do I start at 10? Any one have any other tips?

I think with CC you are meant to double the time? So 2 4 8 16

I would start again if she wakes after 30 mins

Could she have reflux if she is an unsettled sleeper?

Thanks, I always thought it was adding 2mins but I'll double it. No no reflux of anything. She used to be a settled sleeper it's just recently she tosses and turns. She seems to sleep very lightly atm

If you think she's anxious about bedtime/ sleeping without you it might be worthwhile Doing gradual retreat instead. Sit next to her at bedtime but no interaction apart from telling her at the beginning that you will stay beside her but she needs to sleep. Then you slowly move the chair away every 3/4 days. So next to bed, inside doorway, outside doorway and then out of sight but regularly reassuring with your voice if needed

The first night will take forever but it gets easier. It might stop her waking so quickly after going to sleep