OH is the favourite parent and it pisses me off!

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Little rant!
SAHM to 22 month old DD. Literally at her service 24hrs a day, which I’m very happy to do, however I am going to admit to having moments of jealousy about how OH is so blatantly the favourite parent despite me doing fucking EVERYTHING!!!! today is a TYPICAL example of the shit I mean. She’s been up all night (literally up and down all fucking night and obviously it’s me who’s up with her) finally get up at 6am and do breakfast etc, OH is off work today and emerged from bed half an hour ago to be treated like a returning war hero by DD. (Same every day off, he literally never gets up with DD)
I literally NEVER get this type of welcome. He busies himself making himself some cereal etc, not like he’s up and straight away playing etc
I started talking to OH and DD immediately starts shouting “no!!!! No talk to MY daddy!!!” She’s been doing this a lot lately, if me and OH are talking or occassionally hug in front of her, she will start shouting that he’s HER daddy and to stop.
She never gets so possessive about who I’m talking to!
I’m sure people will say it’s because I’m always there, he’s more of a novelty etc, but doesn’t stop it feeling shit and me feeling rejected and obsessing about if he’s her favourite parent!

Hello.. I have experienced this at that age with my daughter.. probably between 2 and 3 ish. Now she is coming up to 7 and for the last couple of yrs we have been closer than ever. I found it was just a phase.. it wasnt anything that you had done or hadnt done. Its annoying yes.. my son is doing a similar thing now and I feel that he will come out of that phase too once they grow up a bit. May be that reassures you a bit?!

Honestly it’s a phase! I remember the exact same feeling...my DD it lasted from about 14 months to nearly 2.5. DH was the massive favourite. I hardly got the time of day despite doing all the hard work. Then out of nowhere she decided she loved me again and showed an embarrassing amount of affection and favouritism and rejected DH! She is now 4 and balance has resumed...we get equal affection and equal tantrums.

It's a phase. My DH works away all week and you would think some kind of superhero had walked in on a Friday evening.

My DD is just 4 and coming out of it now. She's much more balanced between the two of us but she used to be terrible. DS is 2 and very clingy to me a lot of the time (tired/hurt/hungry) but anything fun is all about Daddy.

It used to upset me with DD. Now I realise she actually has a really good relationship with both of us and she realises herself how much she needs me.

My DS (3.5) clearly prefers his dad despite being a limpet to me as a baby. I’d like to think it was a phase but really I think it’s because my DH is much better at playing than me. I do not have the patience to do half the stuff that my DH does. It makes me feel like a shit mum. When it’s just me and my DS I make an effort to set games up, go for walks etc. But when we are both there, DH is naturally more adventurous and fun and therefore the favourite. I also discipline more.

DC2 is due soon so I can only imagine it’s going to get worse

I'm glad you posted this as I've been in tears over the weekend with the same thing. Hes been saying I'm not his friend and telling me to go to work.

I know I shouldn't take it to heart but it's so hard. I just want to cuddle him and he wants to play with fun daddy!