In the garden and family not far from baby is smoking, it's not directly near her but not far. Don't know what to do as my family are very judging and like to argue and call me paranoid

[Paigelauren22]

I'm scared my baby will be harmed, family smoke outside not close near baby but not far from her when I visit and it's nice weather to sit outside. Partner told me to just stay inside to protect her if I'm paranoid but I don't want to do that I want to be able to sit outside without the smoke near her. But family won't listen and call me all names as it's their house they can do what they want. Don't know what to do as I only see my family once a week and don't want to stop seeing them but if it's going to do harm to baby then I might have to

It won't do the baby any harm. Try to sit upwind of them.

I will be no more harmful than pushing baby along the road in a buggy, just don't let them blow it right over her!

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They do look the other way when they blow their fag out but sometimes the wind was throwing the smoke round. So should I just try keep more of distance from the smoke, such a worrier

Sounds gross. I wouldn’t be hanging out with smokers in close proximity in garden with a baby.

Is that the longest ever thread title?

How old is the baby?

This might sound silly, but could you get some sort of windbreaker / playpen type thing if you're that worried and say you're using it to create shade? Or put blankets on the floor for the baby as they'll be out of the way of the smoke?

I think it is the longest ever title !

Honestly, in the most gentle way, you are over reacting. Your baby will be fine.

Your family sound awful.
Stop going.
Why are they calling you names?

Just move away from them with your baby when they are smoking. Its that simple, cant stop them smoking.

Move baby away. It’s more harmful to walk a pram up a busy street with lots of idling traffic than have cigarette smoke blown near them for a while.

I probably wouldn’t bother visiting people weekly who call me names.

In the nicest way possible - your family have a point.
You aren't inside a room. You aren't in an enclosed space. They aren't leaning over into the baby's space. It is only once a week.

As other posters have said, you probably get the same levels of pollution just walking down the road with her.

When I was a kid, all the adults smoked. Slight exaggeration, but most of them did. Both my parents smoked in inside and outside our very small house. I don't smoke but I don't think I was harmed in any way. Your baby will be fine.

If you don’t want to get into a health debate i.e. it never did me any harm etc. Then just take your baby as far away as possible. Say it’s because you don’t like the smell of smoke and don’t want your baby to smell of it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ As long as you’re not downwind of them then it shouldn’t be a problem