Boundaries/Rules 13 Month old.

[LanguageAsAFlower]

Evening wise people.
So I've got the Wonder Weeks App which was very useful early on, just reading it for my son's current age/stage and it's very clear that now is the time to start "setting boundaries" and "rules" so my question is what sort of things should be non negotiable.

I would say I've been fairly laissez faire so far, fed on demand, bedtime is within a two hour slot but I judge it on tiredness etc. The only thing I've found that I have really had to say "No" about a lot is throwing food at dinner, which is met with a firm "No" and I mime putting the food in his mouth which usually works. I'm worried that I might veer into indulgent if I don't have stronger boundaries, but I also I know that they don't have proper impulse control so I don't want to be wasting my breath either. Any advice?

At 13 months, they are still very young. You can't do much about "rule breaking" beyond a "no." and redirection.
I didn't let mine touch dangerous things or hit people. That was about it.

Oh that's reassuring. I thought I must be missing something and should have more rules.

We say no and remove from the situation if it's dangerous (eg trying to pull the TV over ). I just ignore things like food throwing as the attention makes it worse, but praise good behaviour - so I'd ignore the fact he chucked his toast on the floor but tell him he was a good boy/give him some applause for giving me his milk cup when he was finished.